tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-63867902806782136332024-03-19T17:01:01.919-04:00HYP4LIFE llcWelcome to my Blog..................
It covers topics such as Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy, Quitting Smoking, Stress Management, Improving Sports, Academic and Artistic Performance, Anger Management, Regression Therapy, Hypnosis for Children and Adolescents, Eliminating Fears and Phobias and Unwanted Behaviors such as nail biting and stuttering.
Also covered are Metaphysical topics such as, Past Life Regressions, Life Between Lives, Metaphysical Counseling, Reiki and Psychic MediumshipGarry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-73772001300456169062014-05-09T22:39:00.000-04:002014-05-09T22:39:43.809-04:00An Educational Testimonial<span style="color: green;">I work with Carole and have known her for
over 20 years. She came to my “Introduction to Hypnosis Workshop” just
for the experience and then asked me for a Mediumship reading.</span> <span style="color: green;">She
sent the following Email to me. I think it is a great description about
a person’s FIRST experience with Hypnosis AND Mediumship. Although it
is a long email, if you are curious about the effect of hypnosis or
Mediumship, it is worth the time to read it</span>.<br />
<br />
Carol's Testimonial<br />
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<i>I attended Garry's Hypnosis Workshop in
October of 2013 it was the first time in my life that I went to any type
of workshop like that. Now I am a person who would NEVER BELIEVE THAT
THIS COULD HAPPEN TO ME. I would see it on TV and say it was "FIXED". So
I told Garry that a friend of mine and I would attend but I really
didn't believe that I could be hypnotized. I didn't know what to expect
or what would happen. I said to myself that I'll just go and see what
happens. Garry stood in front of the group of people and talked about
hypnosis and other things and told all of us what we needed to do which
was basically just to relax, listen to the music and to him talking. I
was in a room with total strangers and a friend that I grew up with. He
explained what we would feel and to just go with it. I was thinking "NO
WAY IS THIS GOING TO HAPPEN TO ME... NO WAY!!!!<br /><br />As he
was talking to us, it was so strange that everything he said I would
feel, I DID! I couldn't believe I was really hypnotized, I thought,
"anybody but me!" At the end of that first hypnosis experience, he said
that if we wanted to open our eyes to do so. But I didn't want to, it
felt so nice! During the second hypnosis experience, he told us to put
our arms straight out, close our eyes and imagine one hand holding heavy
books and the other holding a bunch of colorful balloons. What totally
blew my mind was that I actually felt and saw them! I was like "OMG this
is unreal".<br /><br />When Garry said we can all open our eyes
truthfully I didn't want to, but did. After the session was over I was
like "WAS I REALLY UNDER?", "DID THIS REALLY HAPPEN?" Well I know it
did cause, man! did I feel and see things that I never would have
guessed I would. GUESS WHAT I NOW KNOW? I have no doubt about hypnosis
or if I can be hypnotized. IT WAS A GREAT EXPERIENCE. If you have a
chance to be hypnotized, jump at it!<br /><br />Garry is a teacher
(in more ways than one way) we both work in the same school and I have
known him for over 20 years. The experience at his workshop got us
talking a lot about all that hypnosis stuff. And as if that alone wasn't
enough to blow my mind, what happened later REALLY blew my mind!!! I
read on his website that he is not only a hypnotherapist but a psychic
Medium. Which is so weird, because I just starting to watch "Long Island
Medium" with Teresa Caputo! I just got a reading from Garry that really
got me in believe in Mediumship. I used to think there's no way
possible for something like this to be true or to happen. I again sat
patiently wondering how this was going to turn out.<br /><br />After
school, Garry was able to sit with me and he said that he was "aware
of" 2 men, he stated one had cancer and some type of issues with his
stomach, had chemo, something about having breathing problems and one
was in his late 50's and one in his late 70's when they passed. I
thought one was my Uncle and the second was my Cousin, my Uncle was in
the 80's and my Cousin was 60 when he died. Although my cousin was not
my uncle's son, he was his nephew, but my Uncle raised him as his son. I
told Garry that it all made sense to me and who they were. Garry said
that my Uncle stated he also had eye issues which was definitely my
Uncle 'cause he did have glaucoma. Garry told that he was feeling his
right arm was weak and shaky and that my Uncle said he had all his
faculties back which was so wonderful to hear because he had a stroke 26
years ago during a surgery which caused damage on his right side and he
had a brace on his leg and walked with a cane. As Garry was
communicating with them he said these men were on my Mom's side of the
family and they were!<br /><br />Garry said the younger one had
chemo to treat a cancer and that again I was able to take as my Cousin
who had colon cancer. He was receiving chemo for a long time period! I
was amazed that they were there. I never had a reading before and I
couldn't believe it. At one point Garry said that the both of them were
talking to him at the same time and I was taking one piece for one and a
different piece of information for the other. So, Garry stopped and
asked them to separate and talk to him "one at a time"! The amazing
thing was that when they were alive, they were always together just like
that! Even finishing each other's sentences! So it made perfect sense
to me that he had problems separating him, we ALL did, always!<br /><br />When
they separated, my uncle came through stronger, telling Garry of his
concerns about his son having health issues. He told Garry that he was
concerned about his Diabetes. I couldn't understand that because as far
as I knew my cousin didn't have diabetes although he was always heavy.
He also said to tell my cousin (his son) to "Get off his ass and get
movin'". I laughed so hard, and told Garry that was the way he would
always get his point across to my cousin, in just that loud way, Garry
even had his tone of voice, Amazing! Garry said that my Uncle had 2
children; 1 male and 1 female and 2 grandchildren, also 1 male and 1
female. Amazing! Right again! How does he know this?? Garry couldn't
understand the name he was trying to get across; he said it sounded like
"Hel" something. Helen was my Uncle's sister name, my Mom, his sister
Helen... OMG!!! Then if all that wasn't enough, Garry said that he has a
third man coming thru who wanted me to know that he was doing well, was
happy and at rest. Garry had communicated with my father before and
said it was him and that he; my dad wanted my Uncle and Cousin to come
through, because he knew I would love to hear from them... Isn't that
crazy?!<br /><br />Now these 3 men, My Uncle, Cousin and Dad, loved
to have a fun time, sing, play cards and play out to make people laugh
they were always a hit at any party. Garry also mentioned about their
passing being close to each other. He stated 3 years and that's exactly
what it was. My Dad was a different time but mainly the two that came
through first, passed within a year of each other, 3 years ago!<br /><br />So
after the session was over I was like wow the 2 people I would never
have thought would come thru to me, did. My Uncle who was also my
Godfather was always there for me no matter what and was like a dad for
me after my Dad passed away. I left with such a nice warm feeling to
know they were ok and that they were still together.<br /><br />When
I got home and I just couldn't wait to call my Cousin's wife and tell
her what I just heard. I knew she would love to talk to me about my
experience, as she always wondered if she would get the chance to go to a
medium. I asked her if my cousin had diabetes. At first she asked how I
knew about the diabetes, that no one in the family knew that he was
recently diagnosed but yes that he's got diabetes and he does have
weight issues and that they were looking into joining a gym because they
felt that he needed to take care of his health. When I told her that
that's what was told to me by my Uncle, her father-in-law, thru Garry
she was totally amazed. Then she validated that my Uncle was always on
her husband's case that he needed to get up and about. She told me that
my Uncle said to his son you need to get "Off your ass" and do something
and that is exactly what Garry said to me. I said to her that that's
the way he used to talk! My cousin's wife totally agreed "Yep that's
exactly what he would say and my husband!" When I told her about how
Garry stated that my Uncle was up and about moving around that he has
everything back and that he's happy, well she couldn't get over it. She
couldn't wait to tell this to her husband and that she will let me know
what he says.<br /><br />The next day, Garry came into my office to
see me about something and we of course started to talk about
Mediumship. As we were discussing it, he went to give me an example of
how it works with a name and he used the name "Gertrude" as an example,
just throwing it out there. I looked at him and said, "Garry what made
you say that name out of all the names that are out there?!! Garry said
that Gertrude just popped in his head. Well, Gertrude was my Uncle's
daughter! He was still here! Another OMG!! Because he is a teacher, he
loves to explain how "it" works. For whatever reason he was using cars
as an example of how he connects with spirits and brought up a 55
Plymouth Belvidere!, as another example. I almost fell out of my chair! I
said "Garry, NOW...WHAT MADE YOU SAY A PLYMOUTH BELVIDERE, out of all
the cars that have ever been made?" and he said that someone just told
him to say it, why? I said cause that's the car my Dad had and it was
his treasure! He took such good care of it! He cleaned it to the Max.
Then Garry proceeded to tell me what the inside of the car looked like
and he was exactly right! He proved to me that my Dad is STILL with me
even after all these years. It just blew me away. It's just amazing
how something like this happens.<br /><br />I'm so looking forward
to another session with Garry. I have my Cousin's wife coming to a
workshop , she stated "Garry hit everything you said right on the head;
like straight out of my Uncle's mouth to you/us" I couldn't agree
anymore.<br /><br />Garry thanks for what I learned from all this and I'm so
looking forward to what can be told to me by them again. Hopefully, the
next time the women will come through. Garry, it's amazing how the
people in our lives come back in ways we could never think of.<br /><br />Carole</i>Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0United States40.446947059600483 -77.3437514.924912559600482 -118.652344 65.968981559600479 -36.035156tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-4371366724545864702013-03-25T23:26:00.001-04:002013-03-28T11:19:44.831-04:00HYPNOTHERAPY - A SERVICE BUSINESS<br />
<br />
Hypnotherapy is a service business.<br />
By that I mean, hypnotherapists, just like any other practitioner of a business, <br />
offers their services for a fee. <br />
<br />
If your faucet breaks you call a plumber, he comes to your home and using his expertise, <br />
experience and inventory, in the form of a new faucet, he repairs your sink <br />
and in doing so, your problem. <br />
You pay him and if you are satisfied with his work, <br />
you would call him back for additional work if needed.<br />
<br />
If you are in need of a hairstyle, you find a barber or a hairstylist <br />
that follows your directions; has the skills you require <br />
and if they do an exceptional job, <br />
along with the tip and their fee for their service, <br />
you will go back to that practitioner again and again. <br />
If you truly like their work; if you find that no one else can offer you the service that <br />
that hairstylist can and they are better than any other stylist you have ever used, <br />
you will travel miles to where that stylist works.<br />
<br />
If you feel the muscles in your back become tight, <br />
you may find yourself needing the services of a chiropractor or massage therapist. <br />
You may find their services extremely helpful and should the pain come back, <br />
because you were happy with the work they had done on your back, <br />
you would return to them for additional services.<br />
<br />
All these services rely on repeated business for their success and that just makes sense. <br />
Whether we are talking about plumbers, hairstylists, chiropractors, <br />
massage therapists or doctors, lawyers or any other practitioner offering a fee-for-service <br />
each one wants your repeated business.<br />
<br />
All service industries are based on this simple fact. <br />
For their business to survive they must satisfy the needs of their customers <br />
and if they truly satisfied the needs of their clients, <br />
they will be rewarded with repeat business, <br />
so that their businesses will grow and they can continue <br />
to offer their services to old and new clients alike.<br />
<br />
Now none of the above should be surprising to you. <br />
It does make complete sense that if you are running a business <br />
you want your customers to continue to return. <br />
So if I tell you this is true of all businesses, except HYPNOTHERAPY, <br />
you may question me.<br />
<br />
Why, you may ask do I say that? <br />
The reason may not be as simple as what I’ve stated previously. <br />
Using hypnosis as a therapeutic tool, to assist people with behavioral change, <br />
is referred to as hypnotherapy. <br />
<br />
Hypnotherapy has been used for centuries, <br />
although the practice may not have been called “hypnotherapy”, <br />
the procedure of using hypnosis to facilitate a positive change<br />
in behavior with a client, called by any other name would be the same. <br />
<br />
In an ideal situation the client would come to a hypnotherapist, <br />
asking for assistance in changing an unwanted behavior <br />
and after that very first session, leave the office <br />
thrilled that that unwanted behavior no longer is troubling them. <br />
<br />
Which brings us back to what I had said previously, <br />
that hypnotherapy is different than other service businesses. <br />
Whereas other service businesses seek out repeated business for exceptional service, <br />
hypnotherapy by its nature eliminates repeated business, <br />
by offering exceptional service. <br />
<br />
A skilled hypnotherapist, who is dedicated to helping his clients, <br />
should not see that person again, <br />
because the initial problem that was presented <br />
had been resolved completely in only one session.<br />
<br />
I have been using hypnosis along with other therapeutic modalities <br />
to help people change unwanted behaviors, for the past 13 years. <br />
In that time I have noticed, that although my referral rate is high, <br />
my repeat business (for the same issue) is very low. <br />
What this means is, in my opinion, that people coming to me for my services, <br />
which include smoking cessation, weight management, anger management, <br />
sports academic and artistic performance, eliminating fears and phobias, etc., <br />
find that after only one or two sessions, the problem they came to change <br />
or eliminate had been satisfactorily handled <br />
and that they were satisfied enough to refer me to their friends <br />
with similar issues, but found there was no need to return for continued hypnotherapy.<br />
This is why I say, <br />
that the indication that a hypnotherapist is successful, <br />
is his having a smaller repeat business and a greater referral rate.<br />
<br />
I have to smile, when new clients ask me for my success rate. <br />
What I say to them is that if a hypnotherapist claims to have a high success rate, <br />
I should question how that success rate is determined and <br />
how the statistical evidence was gathered.<br />
<br />
When I first speak with a prospective client who asks me about smoking cessation, <br />
for example, and asks for my success rate with previous smokers, <br />I tell them, that it is very difficult to determine an accurate success rate.<br />
<br />
In order to have an accurate success rate, <br />
I would have to have follow-up calls, <br />at one month, six months, one year and five year intervals <br />and I feel that these calls may be viewed as intrusive <br />by my clients and so I don’t do them. <br />
I do tell them, that by reviewing the referrals I get from the people <br />
who are no longer smoking due to smoking cessation intervention <br />
and how word-of-mouth referrals are the best advertisement for me, <br />
I could say comfortably, that my success rate is good.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-6833173785329990212013-02-15T01:33:00.000-05:002014-09-21T21:16:13.436-04:00<br />
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“THE NEW MUSIC”<br />
<br />
I’ve been a little frustrated lately, <br />
wanting to put in a blog entry for a while but I’ve been just so very busy. <br />
So, recently I sat at the computer, opened up a Word document <br />
and prepared to do a blog entry about teaching and being a psychic <br />
which will probably be my next blog entry.<br />
<br />
As usual I had my Sirius online radio on and began to sing along with a song that came on. <br />
I was enjoying the music and the beat and the memories it brought back. <br />
But when I began to listen to the lyrics, I was somewhat shocked at what I was hearing.<br />
<br />
It’s interesting these days, how my generation, the baby boomers look at today’s music <br />
and in particular, gangster rap as being so negative, cruel, sexist… <br />
We look at the lyrics of the song writers of this time and feel somehow, <br />
they are jaded, hardened by their lives. <br />
<br />
But I’d like you to read the lyrics, from the song I was just listening to;<br />
It goes…<br />
<br />
<em><strong><span style="color: blue;">“Well, I’d rather see you dead, little girl then to be with another man…<br />You better keep your head, little girl or I won’t know where I am.</span></strong></em><br />
<em><strong><span style="color: blue;">“You better run for your life if you can, little girl, hide your head in the sand little girl,<br />catch you with another man, that’s the end, little girl…</span></strong></em><br />
<em><strong><span style="color: blue;"><br />“Well you know that I’m a wicked guy, and I was born with a jealous mind<br />and I can’t spend my whole life trying, just to make you toe the line.<br />
<br />“You better run for your life if you can, little girl, hide your head in the sand little girl,<br />catch you with another man, that’s the end, little girl…<br />
<br />“Let this be a sermon I mean everything I’ve said, <br />Baby I’m determined and I’d rather see you dead.<br />
<br />“You better run for your life if you can, little girl, hide your head in the sand little girl;<br />catch you with another man, that’s the end, little girl…</span><br /> </strong></em>It was interesting as I was sitting listening to the music, <br />
enjoying the memories they brought back,<br />
knowing I had listened to those lyrics, <br />
enjoyed the song, <br />
enjoyed that time in my life, <br />
and now listening to the lyrics realizing how dark they were. <br />
<br />
And how much times have changed… Or have they?<br />
<br />
Pretty nasty stuff, huh? Sounds like a homicidal maniac,<br />
determined to kill his girlfriend before she could be with another man. <br />
<br />
He’s aware that he’s jealous and he is telling her that. <br />
He’s telling her, that she better watch out, he so jealous that he could kill her. <br />
And I’m guessing she just might stay with him. <br />
Perhaps she could change his ways?<br />
Those of you who are my age, you might recall the lyrics, <br />
perhaps with a smile on your face. <br />
<br />
For those of you who are too young, that really dark, pre-gangster rap group <br />
was called, the BEATLES. <br />
Yes the Beatles, perhaps the most popular band in history, with the most love musicians, <br />
who, spouting peace and love, seemed to have a dark side. <br />
It was a song on the “Rubber Soul” album called “Run for Your Life”…<br />
Go figure.<br />
So when us old folks, start to complain about the music of this younger generation, <br />
with their crazy clothing, their outrageous hairstyles, the way they carry on, <br />
let’s just look back to the 60s. <br />
To the Ed Sullivan show and think about our parents <br />
and remember them talking about those mop toped kids <br />
with their crazy clothes and crazier ideas. <br />
<br />
Think about the Doors, the Stones and all those amazing groups of our generation <br />
that paved the way for these new amazing groups that our children and grandchildren are enjoying.<br />
<br />
An old expression comes to mind, <br />
“The more things change the more they stay the same”. <br />
The more I scratch my head, <br />
and look at the MTV music awards and the Grammy awards <br />
wondering what is happening to our society, <br />
the more I think of my father . <br />
On February 9 1964 the family was watching the Ed Sullivan show <br />
eagerly waiting for the first performance of the band <br />
that caused an illness in the US called “Beatle-mania” <br />
and asked if we could shut it off and put on the Lawrence Welk Show. <br />
<br />
Sadly for my father, he was out voted 3-1, <br />
my mother was also caught up in the contagion of Beatle-mania.<br />
<br />
As I sit and play with my six-month-old grandson, <br />
I wonder what kind of music he will be listening to in his teenage years. <br />
I wonder if he’ll enjoy the music I listened to at that age <br />
and will he enjoy the Beatles, Eric Clapton and the Doors, as his father, my son does. <br />
I wonder when he, my grandson, becomes a grandfather; <br />
will he be sitting with his grandson, playing and listening to music? <br />
And will he be scratching his head as his grandfather did, <br />
when listening to his grandson's music?<br />
<br />
But there is one thing I don’t have to wonder about, <br />
I know at that time when my grandson has his own grandson, <br />
I will be watching over them and appreciating them from a completely different perspective.<br />
View it on YouTube<br />
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<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3wNopYS8YE">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3wNopYS8YE</a><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Lemons"</span></h2>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Synopsis; <br />Making a Life Lesson from an old cliché. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I have just finished reading a new book <br />and for those of you, who know me, </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">know that <br />I am an avid reader of spiritual and metaphysical books. <br /><br />There are specific books that have changed my life <br />and Dr. Paul Debell's book, <br />“Decoding the Spiritual Messages of Everyday Life”, <br />is clearly one of those life altering books. <br />I would place it at the same level as, <br /><em>Dr. Brian Weiss'</em>- "<em><strong>Many Lives, Many Masters</strong></em>", <br /><em>Eckhart Tolle's</em> - "<strong><em>The Power of Now</em></strong>", <br /><em>James Redfield's</em> - "<strong><em>Celestine Prophecy</em></strong>", <br />along with the works of <br /><em>Neale Donald Walsch, Dr. Gary Schwartz </em>and<em> Gary Zukav</em>.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Normally, I will go onto Amazon.com and surf around, <br />usually ordering 5-10 books that "call to me". <br />When I finish one, I’ll stand in front of my bookshelf <br />and scan the remaining books, asking <br />"which book do I need to read, now?" <br />the question is presented to "The Universe" <br />(God, my higher self, whoever is up there helping us)<br /><br />Dr. Debell's book had been on my shelf for over six months. <br />Each time I ask, <br />"Which is the next book I need to read", <br />I felt "not yet” when looking at “Decoding… ",<br />so there it would sit. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A month ago I finished my last book <br />and once again, I scanned my book shelf<br />looking for which book called to me<br />felt it was time to read "Decoding..."</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This book blew me away from the first page. <br />It is a slow read, not because it is difficult to read, <br />but because with each new page I had to stop, <br />in order to process the information being presented. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, the most interesting point is,<br />that as experiences (messages) <br />were being presented to me in my life, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">in "real time", <br />I was reading about them in the words <br />Dr. Debell had written, years earlier! <br />I found myself having to stop reading <br />and smile at the pertinence of the words he wrote, <br />in relation to what was happening in my life at that exact point in time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This book has my highest recommendation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So… You may ask, <br />“OK, but what does this all have to do with "Lemons?” <br />Allow me to go back in time a little.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In the early spring of 2012, had a bad cold...<br />It was presented to me in a very nice way <br />by one of my High School students <br />who walked up to me, <br />coughed squarely in my face <br />and asked for a pass to the nurse, because he felt sick.<br /><br />“Thanks for sharing” I said <br />as I wrote out his pass, <br />with the anticipation of my own cold in the near future.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But, I still have a residual cough that was really ticking me off...<br /><br />I said things like, <br />"I can’t stand this! GOD... when am I going to feel better?”<br />Or <br />"I forget what it was like to be able to take a deep breath without coughing up a lung!"<br /><br />With each cough I whined more…<br />With each ache I complained louder…<br />Until I started to even annoy myself, <br />not to mention my wife, <br />who by this time had become immune to my relentless complaints. <br /><br />Soon, I was finally feeling better and finished reading a book by <br />the American Psychic Medium Jane Roberts.</span><br />
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<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Jane-Roberts/e/B000APH242/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_pop_1"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">http://www.amazon.com/Jane-Roberts/e/B000APH242/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_pop_1</span></a><span style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Again, I found myself standing in front of my bookshelf, <br />deciding which book was calling to me,<br />when my attention was drawn to Dr. Paul Debell’s <br />“Decoding the Spiritual Messages of Everyday Life”<br />but now I knew that this was the time to read it. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">As I was reading it, <br />I decoded the spiritual message <br />behind my recent battle with the cold from hell <br />and it came to me in the form of a large, bright yellow, juicy, lemon. <br />The quote from Dale Carnegie rang in my ear <br />-“<strong><em>When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make a lemonade</em></strong>”-</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And then “It” hit me...<br />If I was never sick...<br />If I was always in perfect health; all the time…<br />If I never had the experience of coughing so hard, <br />that my muscles ached or I was unable to catch a breath…<br /><br />I would also never know the sensation <br />of the positive anticipation of good health <br />or <br />the joy that comes with the feeling that you are “getting better”.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong><em>I understood that if you don't have the bad...<br />You can never appreciate the good...</em></strong> <br />Another Life Lesson to remember when things are looking a little crappy :)</span><br />
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Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-70146209931100716642012-02-27T00:00:00.000-05:002012-03-03T19:03:39.000-05:00<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">The Winter of 2012</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Synopsis;<br />A personal view of New Jersey.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />I know that New Jersey gets a really bad rap sometimes.<br /><br />Comedians love beating up NJ.<br /><br /><br />TV is also no friend of New Jersey<br /><br /><strong><em>The Sopranos</em></strong>… We are all mobbed up and have a combined IQ of 23.<br /><strong><em>Boardwalk Empire</em></strong>… The story of the Soprano’s older brothers. <br /><strong><em>The Jersey Shore</em></strong>… <br />These numbskulls aren’t even from New Jersey <br />they’re from Staten Island; my other home<br /><strong><em>Jerseylicious</em></strong>… Are you kidd’n me or what?<br /><strong><em>The Real Housewives of New Jersey</em></strong> … Really?!! <br />These are the “Real” Housewives? Don’t get me started; <br />this show makes “Mob Wives” look like a group of female <br />MENSA alumni discussing theoretical physics!<br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Now don’t get too envious, but my niece actually lives in Hawaii… <br />Yes the one place on Earth that could be called a true Garden of Eden <br />(as opposed to the real “Garden State”). <br />But if you live in that idyllic place, <br />where the temperature is always perfect, <br />the views are always spectacular, <br />the people are always friendly and beautiful,<br />In this perpetual perfection, <br />even Hawaiians say you become accustomed to its beauty. <br />I suppose that’s why people love to visit this paradise so often.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />Now don’t get me wrong, give me the opportunity to live in Hawaii…<br />See how fast I’ll say “Seeyalater, <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Jersey… <br />where’s my plane ticket!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As I wing it to Newark Airport.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But I am happy to say I like New Jersey… most times</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">On October 28, 2011 we all experienced that crazy pre-Halloween <br />blizzard and I was caught in it, <br />driving from Saddle Brook to my home, <br />a 45 minute drive which took me 7 hours!!!<br />It looked like a war zone when I got home.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Power lines and trees down,<br />cars mangled from multiple car wrecks...<br />What a disaster!<br /><br />I was cursing the snow, <br />my tires, <br />the slow drivers in front of me and the maniacs behind me, <br />the missing plow trucks, <br />the lack of road salt <br />but mostly,<br />I was cursing the fact <br />that I was so incredibly stupid to venture out on that day at all.<br /><br />And while cursing New Jersey,<br />I was wishing that I lived in Hawaii where they have no snow.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I thought that if the winter started in late spring, <br />we were in for one hell of a winter.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I pictured burning out my snow blower and all my fire wood… <br />I pictured ice dams on my roof and water leaks in the house…<br />I pictured driving through canyons of plowed snow in my neighborhood…<br />I pictured the last pile of snow melting away in late May 2012…</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But one of the things I do love about our Garden State <br />is the change of seasons. <br />From summer to winter and back again,<br /><br />I love the change of air temperature, <br />The heat of a summer day, the sun beating on your skin.<br />The shiver of the wind as it rips through your down parker <br />on a day when the wind chill factor reads -15 below.<br />The first hint of spring when the crocuses break through the soil <br />and the smell of blossoms fill the air.<br />The way the state looks, the change of colors…</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But that winter didn’t materialize and neither did the snow.</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And now I do have one question…<br /><br /><strong>Where the heck did winter go?</strong></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />And to be quite honest… <br />I missed that winter of 2012 that never happened!</span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /> </span>Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-47988906145418760262011-08-19T00:01:00.007-04:002011-08-20T22:28:53.649-04:00WORKING WITH SPIRIT - Posting 3 of 3<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Synopsis;<br />
This posting would be too long for one posting so it is posted in three parts. In Parts 1 and 2, I relay my experience of being on “the platform” at a “Spiritualist Church Student Service”; what being a “Psychic/Medium” feels like when you are in front of strangers trying to “bring through”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>messages from their loved ones who have passed away. In Part 3, I describe observing Janet Nohavec my tutor, pastor and perhaps one of the top ten best Evidential Mediums in the world today. I describe the masterful way she brings evidence and messages to people who have lost their loved ones and the uplifting effect these messages have on those who were there.</span><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><span style="color: blue;"><em>…After some other validations and a loving message, <o:p></o:p></em></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: blue;"><em> <span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I thanked Pat verbally for accepting my reading <o:p></o:p></span></em></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: blue;"><em> <span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">and thanked her mother in my internal voice; <o:p></o:p></span></em></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: blue;"><em> </em></span><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><span style="color: blue;"><em>“Thank you Mom, for coming through and connecting with me so well” <br />
I projected to the energy of her mother and I heard <br />
“No… Thank-YOU… And I felt a kiss on my cheek!”<o:p></o:p></em></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: blue;"><em> <span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">And as I walked back to the oak chair on the platform, I knew why I love doing this work…<o:p></o:p></span></em></span></div><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Janet thanked me and Lena and stepped to the front of the platform. <br />
I have seen Janet do readings during Sunday services <br />
and years ago had a private reading with her. <br />
She IS an amazing evidential medium. <br />
So I was prepared to see her do a reading.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I expected her to do what she had been teaching her students for the past year.<o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Connect with a spirit communicator and get their <br />
“Name Rank and Serial Number”. </span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I assumed she would give 8 – 10 pieces of evidence.<br />
<o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I assumed a few hands to go up in the audience, of those people who could accept all the pieces of evidence that Janet brought to them.</span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I assumed Janet would narrow the number of people </span><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">wanting to make that connection down to one.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I assumed she would work with that one person <br />
and give them one message.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I assumed Janet would “Wow” the congregation and me with more exact pieces of evidence. I knew that I would not be hearing <br />
“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I have your Daddy here and he says he loves you</i>”. <br />
I knew the evidence that we would be hearing would be impressive.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I assumed we would be hearing an uplifting and inspiring message.<o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Well as the old saying goes “When you assume…”<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I am aware of a man”… she started “he tells me he liked a ‘stiff shot of liquor’, but he was not an alcoholic</i>”… No one responded. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I feel this man is with a couple in this area</i>,” <br />
pointing to the large family group.<o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Still no one acknowledged the spirit connection.</span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I am with this couple here</i>”… <br />
pointing to a man and a woman seated next to each other in the center of the group.<o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Still they shrugged looking at each other, the man looking uncomfortable. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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She brought up a poker game.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 14pt;"><span style="font-size: small;">“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">He is now showing me a group of men playing poker</i>”. <br />
Two woman in the group looked at each other and then at the couple that Janet was addressing with a puzzled expression on their faces. But not puzzled by Janet’s evidence, puzzled and exasperated by their family members who were not accepting any or all of the information.</span> <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">This couple was experiencing “Psychic Amnesia”, a condition that happens when you are being given information from a Medium, that because you are so excited to be called upon; and wondering who this person is; and being taken off guard; and a hundred other conflicting emotional reasons, that you completely forget who this person is, even if they were the closest person in the world to you.<o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><br />
At this point I think I would have folded or <br />
at least I would have started to profusely sweat.</span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Janet didn’t bat an eye. She is so confidant in her connection with the spirit world that she was not going to leave this couple until they said that yes, they could take this man.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">But still they shrugged; actually the woman shrugged, her husband looked like he wanted to crawl under his chair. You didn’t need to be a psychic to read this situation. I pictured his wife telling him he “really needed to go tonight; our whole family is going; don’t worry honey, these people aren’t going to call on you…”<o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><br />
Well I think this man got a lot more than he bargained for and as it ended up he got exactly what he needed to get… <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I love Janet! <br />
If it were me giving this reading and this couple who I knew the reading was for, <br />
completely rejected my connection, <br />
I would be looking to crawl under my own chair. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">But I am a long way from having the confidence that Janet showed that evening.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">She folded her arms in front of her and I saw her connecting with her spirit communicator, I saw her nodding as she was processing more evidence.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">He says to mention a ‘Royal High Straight Flush’</i>”… <o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">And that was all it took. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">It was as if 12 light bulbs went off over 12 different heads… <br />
The whole family reacted with gasps, hands to the chest or mouth, smiles, awestruck faces… <br />
The couple did not have to say anything the family’s reaction said it all.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Looking at the man again, Janet asked <br />
“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Who is Tom</i>?” <br />
The man’s eyes opened as large as saucers <br />
as he pointed at his chest and whispered, “Me”<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">More gasps from the large family.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Who’s Ruth</i>?” Janet asked. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">The man’s saucer eyes got even bigger </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">and his wife’s jaw dropped open </span><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">he pointed at her with his thumb <br />
as she ever so slowly raised her hand.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Her jaw wasn’t the only one that dropped. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Mine dropped with Tom and stayed that way for the rest of the reading. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Who is Tony</i>”, Janet asked and the stunned couple replied <br />
“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Our brother-in-law”.</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><o:p> </o:p></span><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“The one who liked to play poker on Thursday nights and got the Royal High Flush?” she asked with a broad smile on her face as the couple smiling and crying nodded as did their whole family.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">The whole audience laughed and was clearly amazed by this reading; not only did Janet know the name of her spirit connection; <br />
she got the names of the couple who the reading was for </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">through Tony who is in spirit! </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Now at that point I would have said </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“Wow! That was an amazing reading!” </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">And if Janet had given this couple a message from their brother-in-law, </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">it would have been perfect, but Janet wasn’t through yet.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I saw her take a breath as if her connector was giving her something more. But she was not smiling as she had before. <br />
Her demeanor became more serious <br />
and I felt that the next piece of evidence was going to be powerful and it was.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">She looked at the couple again, they were still smiling and clearly impressed that their Tony came thru to them. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Janet took a deep breath and stated quietly and compassionately, <br />
“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">You have lost a son; is that right?”</i><o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">The woman gasped, nodding as she brought a handful of tissues to her face. Her family through their own tears were touching her to give her love and support. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">Her husband, obviously holding back his own tears, handed her the box of tissues that was being passed around to their family.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Who is Joseph?”</i> Janet asked quietly. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><br />
“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Our son</i>” was the whispered response from the woman, <br />
at which point her husband could not control <br />
his hardened façade any longer and with a handful of tissues, <br />
buried his face in his hands and gently wept <o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">as his family placed hands on his back for support. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">He says that he passed quickly and that he felt no pain… <br />
He knows you have struggled with that; <br />
He says he passed before the flames consumed the car…”</i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">The weeping grew stronger and now their whole family was crying </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">along the rest of the congregation.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">He says he sees his nephew at school and at the play; that it was good to see everyone laughing again</i>”</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">The crying slowed and was replaced with smiles and awe as Janet brought through more loving and healing validations and messages for Joe’s family.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">After the service ended, Janet thanked Lena and I and Barbara the homilist. I felt driven to thank Janet for asking me to read, but what came out of my mouth, surprised me, I didn’t really think about it, the words formed almost by themselves.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">“<em>Thank you Janet for asking me to read</em>” I started </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><em>“As your student and a Medium, I am comfortable with readings and love watching an accomplished Medium, do their work, </em></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><em>especially the tutors you have teach us from Arthur Findlay College… <br />
But I have to say, watching you this evening…</em></span></div><em> </em><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";"><em>Well, if we were your art students and you were our art teacher, <br />
showing us the use of color and form; how to use perspective and shading; teaching us how to paint a sunset on canvas using light and darkness… <br />
Sitting on the platform tonight watching this demonstration of Mediumship that you just performed, was like watching Da Vinci paint the Mona Lisa; <br />
all I can say is WOW!”.</em> </span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I could not have assumed we would be witnessing a reading like the one we saw. The interesting thing was that afterwards, after the evening was done and my jaw was able to close when I spoke with Janet about her reading, she seemed to be surprised by my reaction to her reading. She thanked me but to her it was her norm; her method of <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Evidential </i>Mediumship. It is what each and every student in her class strives to do. <o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">I watched as Janet did, on the platform what she had been teaching us for a year. <br />
She asked for, received and presented <br />
“Name, Rank and Serial #”. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">She brought names, dates, how their loved ones passed, <br />
specific validations that had tears and laughter simultaneously. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">The closure, relief and joy that that couple received was priceless<br />
and exactly what they both needed to hear. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";">And again it was validated for me why I love to do this work so much.</span><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">(Last month I went back to the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies for a week workshop with James Van Praagh again. The next posting will be about my AMAZING experiences there)</span><br />
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</div></span>Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-56578856384670532912011-07-29T12:00:00.013-04:002011-08-07T19:37:36.867-04:00WORKING WITH SPIRIT - Posting 2 of 3<div><div align="left">Synopsis;<br />
This posting would be too long for one posting so it is posted in three parts. In Parts 1 and 2, I relay my experience of being on “the platform” at a “Spiritualist Church Student Service”; what being a “Psychic/Medium” feels like when you are in front of strangers trying to “bring through” messages from their loved ones who have passed away. In Part 3, I describe observing Janet Nohavec my tutor, pastor and perhaps one of the top ten best Evidential Mediums in the world today. I describe the masterful way she brings evidence and messages to people who have lost their loved ones and the uplifting effect these messages have on those who were there.<br />
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<em><span style="color: blue;">… After Lena’s evidence and message, she thanked the congregation and went back to her seat. Janet walked to the pulpit and said into the microphone, “Garry?” nodding towards me, I stood up and simultaneously said to the spirit of this woman I had felt,<br />
“<em>Ok, mom… we’re up</em>”</span></em><br />
<br />
<strong>Working</strong> <strong>for</strong> <strong>Spirit</strong> – <strong>a 3 Part Posting</strong><br />
<strong>Posting</strong> <strong>2 of 3</strong><br />
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“<em>Ok Garry…” </em>my self-talk began by trying to calm myself down.<br />
“<em>BREATH! Focus…”</em><br />
“<em>You have done this before and you now truly believe in the process,<br />
so put what you’ve learned from Janet into action”</em><br />
I began to listen to this new supportive voice and it felt good!<br />
I was not hearing any negativity…<br />
I was confident that the spirit of this woman that I had communicated with,<br />
wanted to connect with her children.<br />
And I certainly wanted to help her; I knew that if her child was sitting in the audience,<br />
she certainly wanted to hear from this woman, her mother.</div><div align="left">I was ready.</div><div align="left">Gone were the butterflies in my stomach.<br />
Gone was that doubting voice in my head and I was ecstatic that I no longer heard it.<br />
Gone was questioning if I could make a contact with a spirit.<br />
Gone was the fear; of looking foolish; of failure; of public speaking<br />
(that one I had been working on my whole life and now I did not feel it)</div><div align="left">In my awareness even the congregation was gone.<br />
All I wanted to feel was the energy of this woman<br />
who I knew was a supportive loving mother;<br />
I felt her and I focused on nothing but the connection<br />
I had with her for only the briefest of seconds.<br />
<br />
I have become accustomed to the physiological feeling I get when a spirit is close.<br />
There is a tingling on the back of my neck,<br />
almost like someone blowing on it.</div><div align="left">This tingling which then runs up and down my spine,<br />
is my first indication that I am connecting with a spirit.</div><div align="left"><br />
Then the hair on my arms and if the spirit is strong enough,</div><div align="left">the hair on the back of my neck will stand up.<br />
This is when I begin a conversation with the spirit; in my head of course…</div><div align="left"><br />
“<em>I know you’re a woman</em>” I asked.<br />
I “felt” the affirmative answer more than heard it…</div><div align="left"><br />
“<em>I feel you were on your 70’s or 80’s when you passed</em>”<br />
Again affirmative response.</div><div align="left">My next question was “<em>How did you pass?”</em><br />
<br />
I am clairsentient, I feel what the spirit sends to me and at that split second,<br />
I felt a sharp pain in my chest and my left arm<br />
and I knew she passed of a heart attack or a heart related issue.<br />
<br />
She showed me smoking in her youth, but not as an adult.<br />
I then heard “<em>Kearney</em>”…<br />
<br />
All this information came to me in a split second and I felt confident<br />
that someone in the audience could connect with this woman.<br />
I felt that after someone said that they could accept this information,<br />
I would be able to get more evidence, prove the connection and then get a message.<br />
<br />
So, I began to relay this information to the people in the chapel and at the same time,<br />
I was drawn to a mother and daughter who were part of</div><div align="left">the large family group that I saw in the parking lot. </div><div align="left">I felt that this woman in spirit was the mother and grandmother to these two women.<br />
I offered what I was receiving to the people in the chapel…<br />
<br />
<em>“I have a woman here who passed in her 70’s or 80’s…” </em>I stated.<br />
“<em>She was a mother and grandmother in this life…”</em><br />
“<em>She says that she smoked in her youth but quit a long time ago…”</em><br />
“<em>She hasn’t been gone for a long time, perhaps a few years…”<br />
</em>This information was new and came to me as I was giving the information that I had already received.<br />
<br />
My awareness was again drawn to the mother and daughter in the family group. With each new validation I offered, they looked at each other smiling as if the connection I had was for them and I felt comfortable and confident that not only did I have a spirit, but I knew who it was for.<br />
<br />
I continued, “<em>She passed from either a heart attack or a heart related issue</em>…” The mother and daughter looked questioningly at each other.<br />
<br />
“<em>I just heard the word ‘Kearney’</em>, I don’t know if is the town, a name or maybe she is referring to a circus?”<br />
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To my surprise, as I gave the information about Kearney, they seemed to disconnect with me, sadly shaking their heads as if to say that, although they wanted to connect, unfortunately, the information was not for them.<br />
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Equally unfortunate, for me, was that I went into my head.<br />
This is what happens, to all mediums that are starting to hone their craft.<br />
Once your sitter can’t or won’t to take the information you are offering,<br />
you think the fault lies with you.<br />
<br />
You instantly doubt if you even had a connection at all.<br />
Your confidence levels drop like a stone;<br />
you begin to question yourself as to why you are even doing this…<br />
<br />
You kick the door wide open to have your “Doubter Part” make it’s grand re entry!<br />
Which was something I was determined not to let happen again.<br />
<br />
This situation, like the “from me to me” dilemma, I have posted about <a href="http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2010/07/sometimes-you-win-sometimes-you-lose.html">http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2010/07/sometimes-you-win-sometimes-you-lose.html</a><br />
can ruin a good reading/connection and destroy the fragile sense of confidence<br />
that all beginning mediums struggle with.<br />
<br />
I accepted that who I thought the connection was for, was not going to be the case,<br />
I again asked the congregation if anyone could take any of the information and I repeated it once more…<br />
<br />
"A 70 year old mother and grandmother, a smoker who quit early, who passed of heart issues, a connection with the word 'Kearney'”.<br />
I looked around the congregation expecting to see a hand rise, but no one raised their hand.<br />
<br />
My heart sank again…<br />
No one…<br />
O…M…G…<br />
NO ONE??? I stared to sweat, something Janet taught us not to do…<br />
<br />
“<em>Always trust in your connection</em>…” she stresses.<br />
Easier said than done, though…<br />
<br />
A bead of “flop” sweat formed at my hairline…<br />
“<em>Never let them see you sweat…”</em><br />
“<em>You are a professional, always stay in control</em>”<br />
<br />
I started to “stroke” my chest, which was something that is neither in my nature to do nor one of my stress management tools.<br />
But doing that caught my attention.<br />
<br />
As I stroked my chest, I felt a chain around my neck and a cross…<br />
<br />
Almost to myself, but loudly enough for everyone to hear, I asked </div><div align="left">“<em>Why am I doing this</em>?”, as I demonstrated stroking my imaginary chain.<br />
<br />
“<em>I feel a chain and a cross in my hand…<br />
This woman is telling me that she was buried with her cross</em>…”<br />
The connection was back; In fact, it was never gone,<br />
it was just my confidence that was temporarily gone.<br />
<br />
Instantly I was flashed my symbol for “NOT”; a red circle with the diagonal line threw it.<br />
When I am shown this sign it usually means I am either wrong or<br />
I need to be shown something different due to my misinterpritation.<br />
<br />
I said to the audience, “<em>No Wait… She wasn’t buried with her cross…<br />
Bare with me for a moment here…” </em>as I tried to understand the conflict<br />
between either being buried with her cross or not.<br />
<br />
Symbols are a communication method that spirits use<br />
to quickly relay information to Mediums.<br />
For example, John Edward’s symbol for love is a yellow rose.<br />
My symbol for Roman Catholic is a feeling of rosary beads<br />
over my hands in a prayer position.<br />
<br />
So when I received my “Not” symbol<br />
when I said this woman was buried with her cross,<br />
I asked and waited for clarification and I got it.<br />
<br />
“<em>No, sorry, she wasn’t buried with the cross. There was discussion about burying her with the cross but it was decided that her granddaughter should have it</em>”<br />
<br />
Immediately a hand went up in the back of the church, Carole a long time member of the congregation and an excellent Medium herself said<br />
“<em>Garry, you’re with me! You have my mother!”…</em><br />
<br />
I could have jumped right off the platform,<br />
run to the back of the church and kissed her!<br />
The flop sweat instantly evaporated!<br />
The knot in my stomach untied and I felt the connection again, only stronger.<br />
<br />
When she said that I had her mother, I felt a surge of energy…<br />
A chill went up my arms and my spine;<br />
a feeling I have found to be my validation that I truly do have a connection.<br />
<br />
After some other validations and a loving message,<br />
I thanked Carole verbally for accepting my reading<br />
and thanked her mother in my internal voice;<br />
“<em>Thank you Mom, for coming through and connecting with me so well</em>”<br />
I projected to the energy of her mother and I heard<br />
“<em>No… Thank-YOU… And I felt a kiss on my cheek</em>!”<br />
<br />
And as I walked back to the oak chair on the platform,<br />
I knew why I love doing this work…<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">In "WORKING WITH SPIRIT - Posting 3 of 3" (scheduled for posting on 8/19/2011) I describe an amazing reading done by Janet</span></div><div align="left"></div></div>Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-68502134227802147132011-07-07T00:06:00.000-04:002011-07-07T00:06:43.060-04:00WORKING WITH SPIRIT – a 3 Part Posting<div>Synopsis;<br />This posting would be too long for one posting so it is posted in three parts.<br />In Parts 1 and 2, I relay my experience of being on “the platform” at a “Spiritualist Church Student Service”; what being a “Psychic/Medium” feels like when you are in front of strangers trying to bring through messages from their loved ones who have passed away.<br />In Part 3, I describe observing Janet Nohavec my tutor, pastor and perhaps one of the top ten best Evidential Mediums in the world today. I describe the masterful way she brings evidence and messages to people who have lost their loved ones and the uplifting effect these messages have on those who were there.<br /><br />WORKING WITH SPIRIT Posting 1 of 3;<br /><br />On Sunday June 5, 2011 at 5:15pm, I was driving on Rt.287 North to the<br />Journey Within Spiritualist Church in Pompton Lakes where<br />I would be giving a Mediumship reading.<br />But this reading was going to be a new experience for me<br />and I am a big believer in the importance<br />of new experiences for the growth of your soul.<br /><br />The Journey Within Church<br /><a href="http://journeywithin.org">http://journeywithin.org</a>,<br />is a Spiritualist Church in Pompton Lakes NJ and is a member of the SNU,<br />The Spiritualist’s National Union<br /><a href="http://www.snu.org.uk">http://www.snu.org.uk</a><br /><br />The Church’s Pastor, Janet Nohavec is a world renowned psychic/medium<br />and an amazing teacher.<br />She had invited me and about twenty other Mediums,<br />to join her school for Evidential Mediumship.<br />Her goal is to make us the best Psychic Mediums we are capable of being<br />and that means getting evidence, evidence and more evidence.<br /><br />Saying<br />“...<em>I have your father here…<br />Your father IS in spirit, isn’t he?<br />Well he is here and he says he is proud of you</em>”...<br />will just not fly in Janet’s class.<br />Janet wants “Name, Rank and Serial Number”,<br />by that she means; she wants specific information from the spirit<br />that you are feeling, in a specific order<br /> with no fuzzy fluff like...<br />“<em>Your mommy says she loves you</em>”...<br />Janet says that is not a “Wow” reading and<br />there is no evidence from that statement,<br />that you are actually in communication with a spirit.<br /><br />A wow reading is one that when it is over, everyone there;<br />The sitter,<br />You - the Medium<br />and The spirits that are there say...<br />"<em>WOW! that was amazing</em>”<br /><br />Janet is a tough teacher and I should know, being a teacher.<br />She also has one of, if not the most important attribute of a great teacher;<br />an absolute passion for her subject and in this case,<br />the subject is Evidential Mediumship.<br /><br />I received a call from Janet about a week or two before,<br />asking me if I would be able to read at the Student’s service on Sunday evening.<br /><br />I was so honored by her asking me<br />that I answered immediately with a resounding<br />“<em>SURE! And Thank-you for asking</em>”.<br /><br />Which was just before the annoying voice of my doubter part said<br />“<em>What are you crazy, what if you screw it up</em>?”<br />I have learned to acknowledge that part of me<br />that is always causing self-doubt and<br />then try to ignore it;<br />perhaps it’ll stop one of these days.<br /><br />In any event, If Janet had the faith in me, as a student, to “read” during the service, who am I to doubt her or say “no”.<br /><br />So there I was driving on 287.<br /><br />Having given myself extra time, I was cruising along at a slow 60 mph…<br />Just me and my increasingly annoying voice in my head.<br />Those of you, who know me, know that in my hypnotherapy practice,<br />I use Parts Therapy for many issues that trouble my clients.<br />Then, why, you may ask don’t I use it to treat this part of me that is so full of doubt.<br /><br />Well the answer to that one would be a 10 part posting!<br />(Maybe at a future date)<br /><br />As I entered the church’s parking lot with lots of time to spare,<br />I noticed that 4 cars had just pulled in and parked ahead of me.<br />There were about a dozen or so people huddled in a big group<br />animatedly talking with each other<br />and you didn’t need to be a psychic to know<br />they were all related and anxious about the experience they were about to have.<br /><br />Once in the church’s beautiful chapel,<br />I met with two other students of Janet’s Medium school.<br />You could tell quite easily that we were all quite anxious and nervous.<br /><br />Janet called us over to explain how the student service was going to work.<br /><br />“<em>First, Barbara, you’ll be the homilist and will speak to the congregation then you both</em>” pointing to Lena and me, “<em>will connect with a spirit and give evidence and a message to someone in the congregation and then I will give a message</em>”<br /><br />Before we walked onto the platform, I sat in the fourth row and closed my eyes.<br />Not only to center myself and get into the Medium mindset,<br />but to stop the old annoying frightened voice in my head<br />filling me with self doubts.<br />It seems to show up in my mind<br />as soon as I am about to read someone and always,<br />its timing is perfect to get me off my game.<br /><br />“<em>What if you don’t get a spirit?</em> I felt/heard it say…<br />“<em>You’ll look like a jerk, up there</em>” it seemed to know exactly what I didn’t want to hear.<br /><em>“…Mr. Wannabe Medium…” </em>it said, spewing it’s venom and sarcasm.<br />“<em>Why do you do this to yourself?...” </em>the voice was relentless…<br /><br />Finally another voice in my head chimed in…<br />“<em>Shut-UP!” </em>it said<br />“<em>He wants to do this so stop hindering him</em>!”<br />This conflict has been going on for years, if not decades.<br />But now I began to pay attention to this new supportive voice.<br />I liked his supportive energy.<br />It knew what I wanted to do and now I decided to only listen to him…<br />My supportive part…<br />And it felt good…<br />It felt right!<br /><br />It wasn’t so much listening to this new part/voice in my head as much as it was deciding to do what Janet has been teaching us…<br /><br />“<em>Have faith in those spirits and they will never let you down.<br />Oh, and just say ‘screw it’ and have fun</em>!”<br /><br />Janet stood up and motioned to us to take our seats on the platform<br />and I began to put my supportive self to the test.<br />I also felt him sitting on top of my annoying doubter self.<br /><br />So, the three of us,<br />Barbara, Lena and I stood and walked onto the platform with Janet,<br />sat down in the tall oak chairs on the platform<br />that were vibrating with the energy of the hundreds of Mediums<br />who had sat there over the years.<br /><br />The service began with an address to the congregation by Janet,<br />who thanked all the people for being there<br /> and explained what this special “Student Service” was;<br />that it was an abridged Spiritualist service<br />to provide experience to her students.<br />She went on to say that we would have a student homilist speak,<br />two students will give a reading each and<br /> then she (Janet) would give a reading.<br /><br />Janet had the music system cued up to “<em><em>All You Need Is Love</em></em>” by the Beatles<br />and we all sang along with John, Paul, George and Ringo.<br />Honestly, it felt a little awkward singing on stage<br />with the feeling that all eyes were on you.<br />But by the second chorus of “All you need is love…”<br /> my energy was definitely picking up as I harmonized with John.<br /><br />Janet introduced the homilist, who began giving her homily and I hate to admit it but I was distracted.<br /><br />The same ego driven concern popped into my head once again<br />but this time I had anticipated it and was able to ignore it.<br />Janet consistently told us that when the butterflies are fluttering<br /> in the pit of your stomach, just say<br />“<em>Screw it and enjoy yourself</em>”<br />and that was my intention. <br /><br />Since my introduction to Metaphysics ten years ago<br />at a week long Past Life Regression Workshop with Dr. Brian Weiss<br />which peaked my interest in psychic phenomenon,<br />I have had an ongoing internal conflict between my ego and faith/trust.<br />After these ten years…<br />finally, my trust and faith have won the battle and now,<br /> to my surprise, I am comfortable on the platform.<br /><br />As I sat on the platform, knowing I was going to be asked soon to make a connection, I asked my Spirit Guides to give me a hand.<br /><br /><em>“OK guys… Time to put up or shut up…”<br /></em><br />I began getting that familiar tingle up my spine, the hair on the back of my neck started to stand up and I thought…<br /><br />“<em>Great! I have a link… thank-you God</em>!”<br /><br />I felt a woman, who had passed in her older 70’s or 80’s,<br />and was a mother and a Grandmother.<br /><br />I thanked her for connecting with me and I asked her, if she could,<br /> hold off until later when I am on the platform.<br /><br />I began my self talk;<br />the set up I do prior to doing a reading.<br />Eyes closed now...<br />Slowing down my breath…<br />Expanding my energy out in front of and behind me…<br /><br />Now I set my intention;<br /><br />“<em>I want to make a connection with a person in spirit<br /></em><em>who wants to communicate with their loved one<br />who is sitting in this place of love and light”…<br /></em><br />“<em>I surround myself with the white light of truth…</em>” I said my white light prayer.<br /><br />“<em>Our father who art in heaven</em>…” I said the Lord’s Prayer.<br /><br />Lena wanted to go first. Even though she was clearly very nervous, she did fine.<br /><br />“Hi I’m Lena…” She said to the congregation...<br /><br />“Hi Lena” the congregation responded.<br />I smiled as I pictured an AA meeting.<br /><br />I thought that when it was my turn, I’d mess up and say,<br />“Hi I’m Garry and I’m an Alcoholi… I mean a Medium…”.<br />Then said to myself that there is a time and place for everything<br />and this was certainly not the time to be joking around<br />and this is not the place for comedy.<br /><br />Lena made a connection with a woman in spirit who was “taken” by Jake, one of our fellow students in Janet’s class who came to the service to support us, his classmates.<br /><br />After Lena’s evidence and message, she thanked the congregation and went back to her seat.<br /><br />Janet walked to the pulpit and said into the microphone,<br />“Garry?” nodding towards me,<br />I stood up and simultaneously said to the spirit of this woman I had felt,<br /><br />“Ok, mom… we’re up”<br /><br />In WORKING WITH SPIRIT Part 2 of 3, I describe my experience of connecting with the spirit of a woman whose daughter was sitting in the congregation.</div>Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-69682899219024886132011-06-05T00:38:00.007-04:002011-06-14T08:59:23.486-04:00I'm BAAAACK!Synopsis;<br />In this brief posting, I apologize for being away for so long and update you on what has been happening during this past year<br /><br />“Forgive me father, for I have sinned...<br />it’s been a year since my last Blog entry…”<br />and I have no one to blame except me and my laziness…<br />shame on me.<br /><br />Although I could blame my laziness on my very busy schedule,<br />I really need to get back into the habit and discipline of writing every day.<br /><br />Since I last did an entry, when I was planning on finishing my book and<br />although I did work on it over the summer,<br />I am still only 75% done and again,<br />I plan on finishing it soon or at least before I retire from teaching in 4 years..<br /><br />Between teaching, hypnotizing, being a Psychic/ Medium and<br />the responsibilities that come with being a husband, father and grandfather,<br />the last thing on my prioritized “to do list” is the gym and writing…<br />OK who am I fooling,<br />the last thing IS writing.<br /><br />Whether in my blog or my book, once I am done with all the “Have to do’s”, the “wanna do’s” like writing just don’t seem to get done.<br />But that will change;<br />that must change.<br /><br />So that’s why this entry is titled “ I baaaack”.<br />Maybe by saying it I will be back…<br />writing again.<br /><br />It is a great release.<br />Sooo…<br />This past year has been very busy and<br />quite interesting metaphysically speaking…<br /><br />- Last summer I spent a weekend at The Omega Institute for Holistic Studies,<br />working with James Van Praagh.<br />That was my next to last blog entry.<br />This summer I will be back at Omega and work with James again for a week!<br />I am most definitely looking forward to it.<br /><br />- I have taken classes with 4 different teachers of Metaphysics from<br />Arthur Findlay College in England.<br />Bet you never knew that there is an actual college in England<br />for Psychic/ Mediumship along with many other Metaphysical areas of study.<br />Actually the college is what the school in the Harry Potter series was based on! If you are interested, check their website at <a href="http://www.arthurfindlaycollege.org/">http://www.arthurfindlaycollege.org/</a><br />- I was asked along with about 20 other Psychic Mediums<br />to join a class taught by Janet Nohavec,<br />at her church to improve and hone our P/M abilities.<br />Janet is not only a world renowned Psychic Medium,<br />she is a true teacher in every sense of the word.<br />By that I mean, she is surely NOT doing it for the money<br />(all “true” teachers will attest to that, money is not the motivating factor in teaching, the motivating factor is the advancement and growth of your students.)<br />Janet teaches her students because she is driven to produce better evidential mediums; people who can prove to the public that we never truly die.<br />To prove to a cynical public that our consciousness is eternal<br />and after our bodies die, our consciousness is still “alive”<br />and aware of our loved ones who are still here.<br />An evidential Medium’s purpose is to assist the spirit in communicating with their loved ones on Earth and to prove to those loved ones that those who have passed away are truly still here.<br />Services at the Journey Within Church start at 10am.<br />Check out the services page on Janet’s website <a href="http://www.journeywithin.org/services.htm">http://www.journeywithin.org/services.htm</a><br />I am proud and honored to be invited by Janet to “read” at the<br />“Sunday Night Student Church Service” this Sunday evening June 5th at 6:00pm.<br />I will let you know what it was like.<br /><br />- I am doing many more “readings”. With each reading I learn more of how our loved ones in spirit communicate.<br />- I started a psychic circle that is still going strong<br /><br />As the title “Spiritual Evolution - A Journey from Atheism to Spirituality” of my book implies, we are all on a journey and I will keep you informed of what I am learning along mine.<br />Until the next time…<br />This Journey continues.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-16886661414102198362010-08-16T22:03:00.001-04:002010-08-18T22:21:31.636-04:00Time to Buckle Down<div><font face="arial">You know when you feel<br />like you have twenty irons in your fire<br />and you only have 2 or 3 charcoal briquettes left. </font><br /><font face="arial"></font><br /><font face="arial">That’s the way I’m beginning to feel.<br /></font><br /><font face="arial">I’m not complaining, mind you, </font><br /><font face="arial">I’m simply observing.</font><br /><font face="arial"><br />Actually, things are really going well. </font><br /><br /><font face="arial">My business HYP4LIFE is thriving.<br />I have lots of hypnosis and mediumship clients.<br />My Psychic Development Class seems to be a big hit<br />and I am setting up another Monday<br />so I’ll be presenting it bi-monthly now. </font><br /><br /><font face="arial">Thank God I still have my teaching position in September.<br />Considering the recent layoffs in New Jersey,<br />I should be and am really thankful. </font><br /><br /><font face="arial">My wife, kids, grandchildren and I are all healthy and happy…<br /></font><br /><font face="arial">So I am by no means complaining; I am thankful…<br />But.</font><br /><font face="arial"><br />I have been writing a lot in my blog<br />and although in the beginning of the summer;<br />June 23, 2010 to be exact;<br />at 10:43 am, I posted<br />“My Book”;<br />saying how I was going to finally finish it after 5 years…</font><br /><font face="arial"><br />Well, I have been blogging a lot more than writing in my book…</font><br /><font face="arial"><br />Oh who am I kidding? </font><br /><font face="arial"><br />I haven’t been writing in my book…<br />at all and I am pissed and frustrated with myself.<br /><br />So I am taking out one iron from my slowly cooling fire<br />and I won’t be posting on my blog<br />until September or October<br /><br />and I am going to attempt to finish my book…<br />finally!<br /><br />I will keep you informed. </font><br /></font></div>Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-17261459478350677622010-08-06T02:00:00.008-04:002010-08-07T19:48:55.397-04:00Sometimes You Win Sometimes You Lose - Part 2Synopsis;<br />this is the second of a 2 part article (please excuse the length) about how you can learn from losing, often learning more than from winning.<br />I describe my experiences at my weekend workshop with James Van Praagh <a href="http://www.vanpraagh.com/">http://www.vanpraagh.com/</a> and the lessons I learned.<br /><br />So, after that reading (from Part 1),<br />I was wondering why I do Psychic/ Mediumship (P/M) readings at all;<br />I was that upset.<br />I considered taking down all my blog postings on P/M,<br />taking all references to P/M from my website and just give up.<br />I went home that night ready to cancel my weekend at Omega<br />and take down my P/M shingle for good.<br /><br /><br />I was that miserable.<br /><br />Fortunately, I spoke with my friend Sylvia (an excellent Psychic/Medium),<br />who helped me tremendously.<br />he said, “Garry, picture a balance scale,<br />measuring all the readings you have ever done …<br />on one side sits all the good ones and the other all the bad ones.<br />What would this balance scale look like?”<br /><br />As that image formed in my mind,<br />I saw the scale overwhelmingly heavy with good readings<br />and only a handful of bad ones.<br />I not only saw the good readings,<br />but the faces of the sitters who were so happy with their readings;<br />how their energy changed after their reading;<br />how light and good I felt after giving them messages<br />from their loved ones in spirit<br />and how I was aware of a feeling of appreciation and gratitude<br />from spirit, after a good reading<br />(I plan on expanding on this feeling of gratitude<br />from spirit in a future posting, suffice to say, we [P/M’s] work<br />for those in spirit more than for the sitters who pay us).<br /><br /><br />That conversation was just what I needed<br />to get me off the floor and back in the game.<br />Sometimes it seems to be necessary to get shot down occasionally<br />so that you know how to get up, brush yourself off and keep on keep’n on!<br />I thanked her for showing me this simple metaphor<br />and I realized that I had allowed these two sitters<br />to so negativity influence me that<br />I wanted to quit this work that I love to do.<br />I also realized that my ego was hurt and that was why I felt like quitting…<br />It hurts when your self-image is attacked.<br /><br />After a good night’s sleep, I woke up and in the shower,<br />I washed off the negative energy that I absorbed the night before<br />and looked forward to the coming weekend<br />at Omega in Rhinebeck NY,<br />where I would learn from James Van Praagh himself.<br /><br />I also planned to relay this experience<br />(of a reading where the sitter would not take anything I offered)<br />to him for advice;<br />I was not disappointed.<br /><br />On Friday July 16, 2010,<br />I arrived at Omega at 6:30pm after a drive from hell,<br />287 North was closed for emergency repair;<br />one lane open and a 3 hour ride took 6 hours,<br />but the frustration vanished<br />with the smiles of the young people working at Omega.<br /><br /><br />If you get a chance to take a workshop there, you really should,<br />it will be worth your time.<br /><br />After settling into my room,<br />I walked into James’ Friday night introductions.<br />We had about 125 people there<br />and we were all anticipating a great weekend.<br />James began by answering the questions of the participants<br />and I was able to ask him the question<br />that was praying on my mind from that Monday’s reading.<br /><br />He had two helpers<br />running back and forth handing microphones to the questioners.<br />“James, I had a reading this past Monday”,<br />I said as the microphone was handed to me.<br />With a big broad smile, he said to wait for the microphone<br />so everyone can hear, as I continued…<br /><br />“I was giving a reading to a woman and her 30ish year old son…”<br />I relayed how no matter what I said; no matter how strongly<br />I knew I had a good link with the spirit of their husband/father<br />they refused to accept anything.<br /><br /><br />His answer to me was understandable and simple,<br />but his follow up about the ego was profound and worth relaying.<br />He said that all you can do as a Medium<br />is to give the information that you are receiving<br />from a spirit to the sitter the best you can<br />and if your intention is coming from a place of love;<br />you are doing this work for all the right reasons;<br />your heart is in the right place<br />but your sitter is too closed off to accept it<br />or if they come to the reading with preconceived ideas<br />or if they want to hear from only a specific spirit<br />and not the one that is there,<br />there is nothing anyone can do.<br /><br />I understood and accepted his rather basic response, but he continued…<br />“Sometimes”, he said,<br />“your ego gets in the way and you get upset because<br />the person you are working with doesn’t understand<br />that you are a wonderful P/M;<br />you are a loving individual<br />who is doing this work for all the right reasons;<br />they don’t see the work you are putting in<br />or the energy it takes to do this work…<br />They don’t know that you were a boy scout<br />and that you love puppy dogs<br />and you go to church every Sunday…<br /><br />They misjudge you…<br /><br />He then said something worth repeating…<br />often…<br /><br />“What people think about you…” he said<br />“<strong>Is none of YOUR business</strong>!”<br /><br />Now re-read that statement,<br />because it is simple, true<br />and is something a lot of us would disagree with.<br /><br />It’s none of your business what people think of you!<br />Wow another Life’s Lesson!<br /><br />Saturday at James’ workshop<br />was a great learning experience<br />and I met some great people and new friends.<br /><br /><br />I met Jali on Saturday morning and<br />we hit it off as if we knew each other for years (lifetimes?).<br /><br /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5502173918195070306" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhKLCoTSuQOfTilm9_g5PsxTto1piecqobgyZsWdfW9dKxc3qd8OPHLYqZ2Mohnnf7l-EMygt-nhZqyjstc8WSOzmVgRousRyNG7E9qMzNFVDOWQgNsoF8ejkK96B54ilL7DxKaXKpewRrs/s200/Garry+and+Jali.JPG" />She is an amazing psychic medium from Maryland<br />her website is<br /><a href="http://www.psychicphotoreading.com/">http://www.psychicphotoreading.com/</a><br />we did a few psychic exercises together<br />and I was impressed with her dead – on (no pun intended) readings.<br /><br /><br />She was kind enough to send me a bunch of photos<br />and I will attempt to paste them onto this posting<br />(using my extremely limited computer expertise).<br /><br />The photo below was by far the most interesting.<br />James did only one reading the entire weekend,<br />letting the participants gain a lot of<br />practical experience as opposed to<br />watching a pro (James) in action (doing a bunch of readings).<br /><br /><br />Jali emailed a photo of that reading,<br />when James was reading the energy of a spirit<br />for a young woman in the audience.<br />I’ll attach it below but the amazing thing was<br />that out of all the photos,<br />only this one when James was reading had some interesting…<br />well…<br />observers for lack of a better description.<br /><br /><br /><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgabjhQFOtec4sp7teyFGOI1ujCD85XdRDhyFzxOenEqYagFa3Os7N1xA7U9M-N-awguPyMp6CKVq7lucT9sXQIRzpRBuIZK4Zuma4CqM7pDA0AfKUQwI2lUDKtbDVs0vOZFW8JZd2pGwXO/s1600/James+Van+Praggh.JPG"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5502174931630528722" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgabjhQFOtec4sp7teyFGOI1ujCD85XdRDhyFzxOenEqYagFa3Os7N1xA7U9M-N-awguPyMp6CKVq7lucT9sXQIRzpRBuIZK4Zuma4CqM7pDA0AfKUQwI2lUDKtbDVs0vOZFW8JZd2pGwXO/s200/James+Van+Praggh.JPG" /></a><br />No other photos I saw from that weekend had orbs like these in them…<br />I count 8!<br /><br />On Sunday before we finished at 12 noon,<br />James said that he would be bringing up some of us<br />to “read” for the audience.<br />Talk about pressure!<br />Reading a group of Mediums<br />with James Van Praagh sitting behind you<br />and he is NOT an easy teacher. </p><p>He said from the start that he was going to push us<br />right out of our comfort zones,<br />and he did just that!<br /><br />At first only one person raised their hand.<br />James said “Good!”,<br />that he had seen her work and that he would help her.<br /><br />She came up and did he ever push her!<br />He was helping her refine<br />the information she was getting,<br />but by the time the reading was through,<br />she was exhausted<br />and I saw a lot of hands<br />that had been waving to get a chance to read,<br />quickly go down and some hands were being sat on!<br /><br />I was torn between wanting to challenge myself<br />and embarrassing myself.<br />I knew that the challenge to do the work<br />was coming from my “higher self”; my sub-conscious P/M self<br />and the part of me that was afraid<br />that I would embarrass myself<br />was most definitely coming from my ego.<br /><br />One of the important lessons James taught us<br />that weekend was the detrimental effect<br />of listening to your ego<br />over your intuitive (psychic) self.<br /><br />I wanted to challenge myself<br />and decided to ignore my ego<br />although with that decision,<br />my ego got louder…<br />until…<br />I “felt” the presence of an older man in spirit<br />touch my arm.<br /><br />As James was choosing who would be next to read,<br />my hand had a mind of its own!<br />It shot straight up<br />waving like one of my students<br />in High School<br />who had to really,<br />really go to the bathroom.<br /><br />I felt as if the spirit of this older man<br />was standing behind controlling my hand!<br />But I truly wanted to challenge myself for a number of reasons.<br /><br />First, I felt very comfortable<br />that I had a strong connection<br />with this man and after all is said and done,<br />we Mediums work for them.<br />If he needed this message to get to someone in the audience,<br />I felt it would be my honor, duty and pleasure to bring his message through.<br /><br />Secondly, this was a place<br />and time where we were all supporting each other<br />and there were a lot of egos outside,<br />banging on the windows and doors,<br />mine included and<br />I made sure I had left my ego outside<br />with my flip-flops.<br /><br />I was ready to do this.<br /><br />Now, James had called up three other people<br />and my hand was shooting up<br />when each one finished<br />and I honestly felt that I was not going to be picked<br />and then the strangest thing happened…<br /><br />I “threw it up to the Universe”<br />I said in my head to whoever was listening,<br />my spirit guides;<br />my higher self;<br />the spirit of the old man;<br />God…<br />“If I am going to do this work<br />and the time is right, it will work out.”<br />I felt a sense of calmness wash over me and I heard…<br />“You’ll be the last one up!”<br />I don’t know who it was,<br />but I heard it as clear as day…<br /><br />“Calm yourself…”<br /><br />“Prepare yourself…”<br /><br />“You Will be the last one up…”<br /><br />The calmness I felt continued…<br />James announced that he had a plane to catch<br />and that he had to leave at 12 sharp,<br />so he could only do a total of five readings<br />and picked the 4th reader…</p><p>I felt I would be next;<br />no fear;<br />no apprehension;<br />no doubt!<br /><br />When the 4th reader stepped off the stage,<br />handing James the microphone,<br />James had his back to me,<br />looking at a sea of hands all wanting to be the last to read.<br /><br />This memory will always stay with me.<br />He turned around, microphone in hand,<br />pointed it at me and asked if I wanted to read!<br /><br />I can’t describe what went through my mind in one millisecond!<br /><br />Yes!...<br />Hell Yeah! I want to read!<br />OMG! It really worked,<br />I asked spirit to help and they did exactly what I asked for!<br /><br />They said I would be last and I am the last reader!<br /><br />OK mister, ghost guy…I am all ears, talk to me.<br />Who do you want to connect with?<br />What relationship did you have with the person in the audience?<br />How did you die?<br />Give me more information…<br /><br />Then another voice said…<br />“Holy crap you better do this right<br />this is THE James Van Praagh!<br />You better not screw this up,<br />like you did Monday!”<br /><br />and I knew Mr. Ego was back in the house!<br /><br />In my mind I pictured standing up facing my arch nemesis,<br />grabbing him by the scruff of the neck and his belt,<br />kicking the door open,<br />throwing him out the doorway<br />like John Wayne in every western he ever made…<br />and then hearing from the PA system…<br />in the voice of James Van Praagh himself…<br />“Garry’s Mr. Ego has just left the building!”<br />…and good riddance.<br /><br />The reading went great!<br />I went up on stage<br />and sat in a chair<br />with James sitting behind me to my left.<br />He prompted me to calm myself…<br />to breathe deeply…<br />to allow an image to form…<br /><br />“I have an older man here”, I started…<br />“Good”, said James, “describe him!”<br /><br />“He is telling me that he drank and<br />that is what contributed to his death;<br />he is a father to a man who is not here,<br />but his wife is…<br />This is a woman’s father in law…<br />He was an educated man,<br />a professional, doctor, or lawyer...<br />A tough demanding father…<br />showed no love to his son.. your husband.. ”<br /><br />I continued with some more evidence<br />with James giving me hints as what to ask him,<br />how to phrase my questions.<br /><br />I felt that James knew exactly who it was I was connected to.<br /><br />Finally two women raised their hands claiming this man may be for them,<br />one in the front of the group<br />and one in the back.<br /><br />With some more evidence,<br />we were able to narrow it down<br />to the woman in the back of the room,<br />who was able to accept everything that was coming though.<br /><br />Then it was time for the all important message,<br />which was short and powerful.<br />He wanted me to relate<br />that he was so very proud of his son,<br />that he was never able to show his pride<br />for his son while he was alive.<br /><br />He was incapable of showing love<br />and alcohol only made his aloofness<br />all the more hardened and at times violent.<br /><br />He said that he was asking for forgiveness from the whole family;<br />that this was the first time he was able to get through to anyone;<br />that he had been so difficult to live with that in spirit,<br />his whole family refused to hear him<br />as he tried from spirit<br />to communicate and to apologize to them.<br /><br />But they heard now!<br />Through the openness of his daughter-in-law,<br />the message would finally be delivered to his son,<br />with the additional sweetness<br />of saying that his son<br />is a better person, man and father<br />than he had ever been<br />and he can finally relay to his son<br />through his son’s wife<br />that he is proud of the man he had become<br />and that he truly does love him.<br /><br />There were few dry eyes,<br />including mine when this man had finished allowing me to help him get his message out.<br /><br />I will always remember that weekend at Omega and the many life lessons I learned there.<br /><br /></p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjL3IOnZeYEJY6uWZt8PElhdGmjGKbYA6CzJ4643ueFJ5TOKS-FgzF0kizMZp5OcvLsPzrB9eKnxaJgn9lDswKTENtNr6cfoItT7Pd6qbR2gUfS30MDZM9aNIau7rppLj8PmJZJLt_Lg2f4/s1600/Garry+and+James+Van+Praagh.JPG"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5502176046906787330" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjL3IOnZeYEJY6uWZt8PElhdGmjGKbYA6CzJ4643ueFJ5TOKS-FgzF0kizMZp5OcvLsPzrB9eKnxaJgn9lDswKTENtNr6cfoItT7Pd6qbR2gUfS30MDZM9aNIau7rppLj8PmJZJLt_Lg2f4/s200/Garry+and+James+Van+Praagh.JPG" /></a>Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-68984914270159079102010-07-26T00:06:00.004-04:002010-08-06T17:44:45.416-04:00Sometimes You Win Sometimes You Lose - Part 1Sometimes You Win Sometimes You Lose - Part 1<br /><br />Synopsis;<br />This is a 2 part article about how you can learn from losing,<br />often learning more than from winning.<br /><br />On Monday July 12, 2010, I had a Psychic/ Mediumship<br />reading scheduled for a woman and her son.<br />It was the Monday before my weekend workshop<br />with James Van Praagh at Omega<br />and I was excited about the weekend<br />and looked forward to doing this reading,<br />just as I look forward to every reading I do.<br /><br />I view doing a “reading” with a combination of emotions;<br />from anticipation of the unknown<br />to dread of being inaccurate in the reading;<br />from the satisfaction of having people walk away from my office<br />happier than they were when they came in;<br />to the satisfaction of knowing that the work a Medium does,<br />is for those who are in spirit, more than those<br />who are still here on the earth plane.<br /><br />This is how I looked forward to this reading.<br />I wanted to do the very best I could<br />for both the sitters (the mother and her son)<br />and for their deceased loved ones.<br /><br />I have learned from years of classes and readings<br />that one of the biggest obstacles to a great reading is your own ego.<br />I learned that weekend from James Van Praagh<br />that EGO is an acronym for “Edging Out God”.<br /><br />A new Medium is always concerned if the<br />images, thoughts, symbols, etc.<br />that they receive are from “the source”<br />or from their own mind or imagination.<br /><br />I refer to this as the “From Me/ To Me” dilemma.<br />It is usually an ego conflict;<br />“Will I look stupid?”,<br />“Am I making this stuff up?”<br /><br />These internal questions fade with experience and confidence.<br /><br />The experience of doing more readings,<br />reinforces the perceptions a psychic has<br />as to where the information he is getting, comes from;<br /><br />either from his own mind or imagination<br />which is in no way psychic at all<br />and is purely guessing, also known as “Cold Reading”;<br /><br />or<br /><br />the sitter (the person being read);<br />their mind, energy or aura which is the definition of a psychic reading;<br /><br />or<br /><br />from the energy of a spirit’s consciousness<br />which is the definition of a Psychic/Mediumship reading.<br /><br />As a psychic does more and more readings,<br />he learns to distinguish between the “From Me / To ME” dilemma<br />and soon only focuses on the “To Me”<br />and can detach from the ego driven “From Me” thoughts.<br /><br />With that distinction, he begins to gain the confidence he will need to do accurate readings.<br /><br />I have witnessed incredibly gifted Mediums like<br />John Edward, John Holland and James Van Praagh,<br />stick to their guns, so to speak,<br />and refuse to be shaken by the denial of a sitter<br />to accept the information being offered.<br /><br />At a demonstration of his Mediumship<br />with an audience of over 1000 people,<br />I saw John Edward stand his ground for a half hour,<br />until the light went on over the person’s head<br />and the sitter was finally able to accept<br />everything that John offered to him.<br /><br />A novice would fold at the first “no”;<br />or at the first arm crossing over the chest<br />and the negative head shake<br />that we have all been aware of when being “dismissed”.<br /><br />This situation is devastating to a psychic Medium<br />and was what happened on that Monday in July.<br /><br />Unfortunately I don’t have the confidence of a John Edward.<br /><br />Although I felt confident that the information I was receiving<br />was from a spirit that needed to communicate<br />to this woman and her 35 year old son.<br /><br />They both just sat there,<br />arms folded<br />and even though I was giving them images that they could accept,<br />they acted very aloof;<br />no big deal about the information they were getting.<br />Almost every piece of evidence<br />I brought up was minimized and discarded.<br /><br />They even said things like “Yeah, everybody has a dog!”<br />At one point, as I was giving the son<br />some additional evidence, when he said<br />“Yeah… So… I have a lot of friends who died on a motorcycle who also had lung cancer…<br />we all smoke”, shrugging and looking at his watch while rolling his eyes.<br /><br />I was giving them the best I could do but they were totally unsatisfied.<br /><br />Then I made a real mistake, I read them for another hour and a half!<br />because I truly wanted to work for their loved ones,<br />even though they refused to accept anything I was saying.<br /><br />After a marathon 2.5 hour session, they left.<br /><br />They did pay for the service… $100<br /><br />That evening I received a very long email from the mother,<br />saying how they felt ripped off by my reading and<br />she went as far as saying that I was a fraud.<br /><br />My reply to her diatribe was to simply<br />ask her for her mailing address and sent her a refund,<br />with a note saying that<br />I hoped that at least she no longer felt “ripped-off”.<br /><br />Part 2 will be posted next week and<br />I will describe some of my weekend experiences<br />at Omega with James Van Praagh and<br />what I learned from this very uncomfortable reading.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-25265280221248416672010-07-15T23:35:00.002-04:002010-07-15T23:51:55.720-04:00Off to Omega Again"Off to Omega Again"<br /><br />Well I am off to “The Omega Institute for Holistic Studies”, tomorrow.<br /><br />For those of you who don’t know what Omega is, picture a commune of the 60’s updated to the 2010’s. It is a wonderfully relaxing place in Rhinebeck, NY, where I have gone for the past 7 years to take classes by amazingly gifted people.<br /><br />I attribute my “Spiritual Evolution” to my experiences there<br />(nice how I dropped in the title of my book, even before it is published…<br />heck! Before it is even finished!... ) but I digress…<br /><br />I have been to classes there with<br />Dr. Brian Weiss <a href="http://www.brianweiss.com/">http://www.brianweiss.com</a> author of “Many Lives, Many Masters”,<br />who I learned how to do Past Life Regressions from<br />and who’s week long class started me on my “Journey”;<br /><br />Neale Donald Walsch, <a href="http://www.nealedonaldwalsch.com/">http://www.nealedonaldwalsch.com</a><br />author of the “Conversations with God” series<br />who opened my eyes to the possibility that<br />you don’t have to be “religious” to be spiritual and believe in God;<br /><br />Raymond Moody <a href="http://www.lifeafterlife.com/">http://www.lifeafterlife.com</a> who introduced me to life between and after lives;<br /><br />Suzane Northrop <a href="http://www.northstar2llc.com/theseance">http://www.northstar2llc.com/theseance</a> author and Psychic/Medium who broke down my hard-core cynicism about all things that are new-age<br /><br />and<br /><br />Last but far from least, John Holland, <a href="http://www.johnholland.com/">http://www.johnholland.com</a> author, teacher and psychic/Medium extraordinaire!<br />Who took me from skeptic<br />to believer<br />to a practicing Psychic/Medium.<br />John had the faith in me during 2 separate classes to bring me on stage to “read” (give messages to people from their deceased loved ones) for the class.<br />I was about as nervous as I have ever been,<br />but with his guidance, I gave fairly good readings, but more importantly,<br />I started to grow spiritually into who I am today<br /><br />(if you read this, John… I will be eternally [and that’s a long time] grateful for your devotion to spirit and your expertise in not only Mediumship but in teaching [Kudos from one teacher to another]).<br />His new book “The Spirit Whisperer” is a must read for anyone who is the least bit curious about psychic phenomenon.<br /><br />Sometimes, being at Omega makes me feel a little uncomfortable.<br />Being an old New Yorker and having everyone there,<br />walking around nodding and smiling at you,<br />the cynical, street wise, Ex-Brooklyner in me thought that<br />I was in a place where they must be putting Thomasine in the drinking water;<br />everyone was sooo mellow.<br /><br />Eventually this old city boy chilled out and soon I was nodding and smiling, like everyone else.<br />I was walking around saying “Good Morning” to everyone;<br />the kids that worked there,<br />the other students,<br />the chipmunks, the squirrels, but when I said good morning to on old Oak tree,<br />I knew I had had enough and I’d better leave!<br /><br />Well as I said, I’m off to Omega again in about 12 hours from now.<br /><br />I will be having a weekend workshop with James Van Praagh, <a href="http://www.vanpraagh.com/">http://www.vanpraagh.com</a> Author, Executive Producer of the TV series “Ghost Whisperer” and world renounced Psychic/Medium.<br />If I learn half as much as I have learned from John Holland’s workshop, I’m in for a treat!<br /><br /><em>Hopefully, I can put these new learning’s to good use and considering the last reading I had, I could use some new teachings.<br /></em><br />The next entry will be a 2 part article titled “Sometimes You Win; Sometimes You Lose”.<br />It will be about the reading I have just referred to.<br />Suffice to say it was not the best work I have done but I sure learned from it.<br /><br />I will keep you informed as to my “Mediumship” progress.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-59342562247824157942010-06-23T10:43:00.004-04:002010-08-06T17:52:17.552-04:00My BookWow, it’s been 6 months since I’ve posted anything!<br />It’s been a rather busy six months and instead of looking backwards,<br />I prefer to look ahead…<br /><br />I am hoping that my book will be finished this summer.<br /><br />As I have said, one of the perks of being a teacher is having the summer off.<br />During the summer<br />I can devote my full attention to my 2nd job… hypnosis;<br />my 3rd job… being a Psychic/Medium;<br />my 4th job… writing, trying to finish my book and blog entries<br />and my 5th job… being Grandpa.<br /><br />My book<br /><strong>“Spiritual Evolution- a Journey from Atheism to Spirituality”</strong><br />is 3/4 complete.<br />It has been a work in progress for 5 years now and I wonder when I will feel it is complete.<br />I also wondered why it has taken so long, until I realized why;<br />the experiences that I have been going through over the past 5 years is an integral part of the book and needed to be lived out first and written about afterwards.<br /><br />This “Spiritual Evolution” that I am documenting is the inevitable result of becoming… conscious (for lack of a better word).<br /><br />My book is about my evolution from being a hard core atheist, believing that there is no god or “higher power” to being a "Spiritualist" (a person who believes in the continuity of consciousness after the death of the physical body and the ability to still communicate with that consciousness)<br /><br />I saw only hypocrisy in organized religion. I was a Darwinist, believing in natural selection and that we were fortunately born as humans; you could have been born as a cockroach; we were lucky.<br /><br />My view of after death communication (the ability of a Medium to contact the spirit of a dead loved one) was completely cynical.<br />Gypsy fortune tellers, taking advantage of the bereaved and when I saw Dionne Warwick on "The Psychic Friends Network", I was thoroughly convinced that this Mediumship stuff was a scam to take money from people who were very vulnerable.<br /><br />But…<br />I could not explain my memories of the ghostly image of an old man in my room at night, which stopped being visible to me only after months of having to sleep with my head under my covers…<br />or<br />my ability to know what people were about to say before they spoke…<br />or<br />as I got older and after my father passed how I felt his presence or how he was able to prevent me from getting into car accidents; not once but many times…<br />or<br />how a person I met at a hypnosis workshop who "claimed" to be a Psychic/Medium, was able to connect with my father with amazing accurate validations.<br /><br />She told me things my father said to me years ago,<br />that no one knew or could have known.<br />Things that were trivial in nature but just what I needed to hear<br />to challenge my disbelief<br />She continued with more validations and finally the message I needed to hear<br />from my father<br />that I had been waiting to hear since he had passed.<br /><br />At that moment, I was instantly converted from cynic to believer.<br /><br />I decided to take some classes to understand how this process works<br />with an internationally renowned author and Psychic Medium named<br /><em>John Holland.</em><br /><a href="http://www.johnholland.com/">http://www.johnholland.com/</a><br /><br />He opened a door for me which I choose to go through.<br />The experience of going through that door has not only<br />motivated me to write my book but has changed my life.<br /><br />I strongly suggest that you put John Holland's latest book, titled<br />“<strong>Spirit Whisperer</strong>” on your reading list for the summer.<br /><br />I will keep you updated on the progress of the book and my evolution…Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-51496694796380600062010-01-06T21:50:00.003-05:002010-01-06T22:14:17.626-05:00New Years and EatingI am a big believer in the work of Edgar Cayce.<br />If you don’t know who he is, please Google him, it will be worth the effort.<br /><br />Although I am a hypnotherapist, the one area that I could use some help with, is my own weight management.<br />I tell my clients, “do as I say, not as I do” and like all of us know,<br />that is the worst thing to say to someone.<br /><br />I also don’t believe in coincidence, so I received some advise recently from different sources that I want to share with you.<br /><br />The first came from The A.R.E. (http://www.edgarcayce.org) an organization based on Cayce’s life’s work.<br /><br />Look over this reading that Cayce gave to a person who had a severe weight issue. You may have to re-read it a few times to see the truth in those words.<br /><br />Edgar Cayce Reading 911-7<br /><br /><br /><blockquote><span style="color:#3333ff;">With the arising of rebellious forces . . . the body has assumed the attitude:<br />"I will break over this time, and the next time I won't.<br />I will eat this because it pleases me at the present.<br />I will take this, for I don't want to suffer right now, and next time I won't."<br />This has been done until self loses such holds on self as to become in a manner the slave to self's own indulgences, in mental, physical and material things!<br /><br />These conditions, then, require that there be made by self a definite stand to be taken; that is:<br />"If there is given me a definite program to follow<br />I will… I will…I will adhere to it,<br />no matter what I may suffer mentally or physically!<br />I will trust in the divine forces innate . . .<br />within my inner self for the strength to endure,<br />for the ability to say “NO” when I should!"</span></blockquote><br />This next advice I received was from a friend of mine who is in AA.<br />When talking about the stress in our lives, I laughed and admitted that I deal with my stress by eating.<br />He said that he had dealt with stress by abusing alcohol, but thankfully no longer<br />and a simple part of a prayer helped immensely.<br /><br />The Serenity Prayer<br /><br /><blockquote><span style="color:#3333ff;">God grant me the serenity<br />to Accept the things I cannot change.<br /><br />The Courage to change the things I can;<br /><br />and Wisdom to know the difference.</span></blockquote>This short and sweet prayer says it all.<br /><br />The Third piece of advice came to me by a hypnotherapist and I want to share it with you.<br /><br /><span style="color:#3333ff;">NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS ANYONE CAN KEEP<br />By: Ann Catherine Pawelczyk, C.Ht.<br /></span><br /><p><span style="color:#3333ff;">How do we help clients make a fresh start in 2009?<br />By showing them how to make "resolutions" they can keep!<br />Too often individuals on the path to self-improvement begin the<br />New Year with high-resolve and even higher standards that for the most part,<br />are darn near impossible to keep.<br /><br />With human nature, when we set the bar high for ourselves-<br />and end up failing, (as we see as professionals in the self-improvement business all the time) -<br />what we're doing is actually keeping the cycle of negative reinforcement in action.<br /><br />Negative reinforcement is a sure fire way to avoid reaching goals,<br />but it's a nasty habit many of us find ourselves holding onto and "unable" to release.<br /><br />The way to ANY positive, lasting change is to set reasonable standards that are<br />flexible, and what we need to be flexible is a series of small manageable steps.<br />(I can hear you groaning already, but please, bear with me!)<br /><br />Here's the key to lasting positive change:<br />When we start out small,<br />whatever changes we want to make have a much better chance of being integrated slowly and permanently into our lifestyles.<br /><br />This is a concept we need to emphasize with our clients.<br /><br />Then...we need to share the following with those we work with:<br />The barrier that keeps us from making changes in a "good" way is the fact we<br />often think the little steps aren't "enough".<br />So...we go for the gusto...and fail.<br /><br />Hey - Rome wasn't built in a day, right?<br /><br />Practice and Share these no-fail resolutions </span></p><ul><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">ANYONE can keep & get moving on the good path: </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">LOVE yourself more this year than last year; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">FORGIVE yourself for any areas you've been "stuck" in the past; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">Be healthier by focusing on better balance instead of frequent fad DIETS; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">Be more ACTIVE by doing fun things out-of-doors and bond with nature; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">Re-member or discover something you love to DO; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">Create daily affirmations and USE them to reshape your mindset; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">Work to TRANSFORM one area of life from now through December; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">Instead of seeing what's "wrong" with your life, focus on what's RIGHT; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">VOLUNTEER your time to good causes; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">SAVE as little as $5 per week and reserve it only for something fun; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">Make it a point to GET TOGETHER with friends or family one night a month; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">Clear the CLUTTER and go one space at a time; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">Take each DAY as it comes; </span></li><li><span style="color:#3333ff;">LAUGH more, LOVE more, and make it a point to complain LESS.<br /><br />The more realistic we make goals, the easier it is to obtain success,<br />which IS the positive reinforcement that enables us to achieve.<br />Try something new this year with yourself and with clients:<br /><br />Make a list of 5 things you'd like to improve this year in order of importance.<br />Once you have your list,<br />break each individual thing down into the smallest possible steps<br />and get started.<br />Enjoy your success!<br /></span></li></ul><br />Remember - action follows thought so be sure to keep your thoughts positive for an unimaginably great outcome in any area!<br /><br />Unfortunately, we all become experts in making New Year’s Resolutions<br />that are the same year after year.<br /><br />Let’s try looking at them in a new way, so that we have brand new – New Year Resolutions<br />next year, with the feeling of success for those we set for ourselves this year.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-6133937789090069652009-11-25T17:39:00.004-05:002009-11-25T18:28:36.741-05:00Jack and Anger Management - Part 3Synopsis,<br />In my posting titled “Anger Management and the Adolescent Child” <a href="http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2008/08/anger-management-article.html">http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2008/08/anger-management-article.html</a><br />I introduced you to Jack. A fourteen year old adopted young man with many emotional problems, not the least of which, was the inability to management his anger.<br />In “Jack and Anger Management- Part 2” I described our last two sessions and my concern that I was not finding much success in trying to show Jack a better way to control his anger.<br />In this, the third posting, I describe how I changed my approach to help Jack in controlling his anger and why I went from directing him to accept his anger to using forgiveness to allow him to control and hopefully eliminate his anger.<br />I describe how, psychically I gained insight into what to do in Jack’s session.<br />I also found a new appreciation for the power of forgiveness.<br /><br />From Part 2;<br /><br /><br /><blockquote><p><span style="color:#3333ff;">"… Jack looked up and nodded in agreement, in a way that I knew,<br /></span><span style="color:#3333ff;">he agreed with my assessment of the situation.<br />I continued,<br />“Jack… Do you think that your mother would ever reject you?<br />Now don’t answer right away…<br />think about it…”<br />Without a second’s hesitation, he looked up at me,<br />then to Diane, shaking his head, saying strongly…<br />“NO! She wouldn’t”<br />“Your father?” I asked.<br />This time he hesitated a second, mulled over the question,<br /></span><span style="color:#3333ff;">took a deep breath and said truthfully and definitively…<br />“No, he wouldn’t reject me either.”<br />“Do you absolutely believe that?” I asked<br />“You are not just saying that… It is what you truly believe?<br />Your parents WOULD NOT… EVER REJECT YOU?... Right?”<br />He quietly nodded “yes”<br />“If you believe that, then, do you know how much it hurt these two people”<br />referring to his parents “to hear those words from your mouth?”<br />As he looked up at them, tears were starting to form in his eyes<br />(along with his father’s, his mother’s and mine)"</span> </p></blockquote><br />“Jack and Anger Management – Part 3<br /><br />I decided at that point,<br />I had to change the direction I was taking with Jack’s therapy.<br />But, how was I going to be able to get through to this young man?<br />How was I going to get him to understand and believe<br />that more than accepting his anger, he needed to get past his anger?<br />If he allowed his anger to fester like an infection of the soul,<br />he would never know true happiness.<br /><br />He now has the opportunity with his adoptive parents, who love him,<br />accept him unconditionally and will never reject him,<br />to know what the love of a real family is.<br />His anger was blocking him from growing.<br /><br />If he was unable to get past his anger at the world,<br />I knew he would be stuck in this angry stage for his entire life.<br />Unfortunately, we all know people like that;<br />angry at the world for pain suffered in their youth.<br />These people may never know happiness and<br />I would hate to see Jack turn into one of those sad and angry men.<br /><br />As I have told you in many other postings,<br />being a psychic/medium has a lot of advantages.<br /><br />When I communicate with spirit,<br />I don’t ask who is communicating with me;<br />I just appreciate the connection and listen to it.<br />It doesn’t matter if the information that is coming to me<br />is from a father in spirit that wants to help his child<br />or a spirit guide that needs to redirect their “student” in the physical world<br />or if it is my “Hypnotherapist Guide”,<br />who I ask for help from constantly and who has never failed me;<br />when I get information from that part of my mind I accept it unconditionally.<br /><br />So when I knew I was in for a complex and complicated hypnotherapy session<br />with Jack and his family,<br />I asked my Hypnotherapist “Spirit” Guide,<br />to give me a little help with this one… and, as usual, he came through.<br /><br />As Jack and I went into my room where I do the actual hypnotherapy sessions,<br />I felt Jack’s pain and frustration<br />caused by his inability to control that irrational angry part of him.<br />He sat in the recliner as he had so many times before.<br />He has become one of those perfect hypnotic subjects,<br />and went quickly, almost instantly, into “Somnambulism”<br />(the most productive state of hypnosis that you can be in).<br />As I usually do, I helped Jack go deeper into hypnosis<br />by putting on some new age-y type music.<br /><br />I said to myself<br />“OK, now how are you going to proceed?”<br /><br />When I felt a chill, up and down my arms;<br />to me that is the unmistakable feeling of contact with a spirit.<br /><br />If I were doing a psychic/medium session,<br />I would have expected this feeling and would ask this spirit to come closer<br />so I could get validations and messages.<br />But this connection was unexpected and<br />Jack was absolutely not interested in any messages from dead people<br />from his past that he would probably be angry with anyway!<br /><br />Also I was getting a different “vibe” from this spirit,<br />it was not connecting with Jack,<br />it was connecting with me, giving me messages;<br />messages of how to get through to Jack.<br />I had been questioning to myself,<br />as to how I was going to facilitate this change in his perception<br />from being the perpetual victim;<br />always the one being abandoned;<br />always feeling rejection, even when there was no rejection,<br />to a person who could forgive, and get on with his life.<br /><br />“Change his perceptions and you change his view of his life”,<br />I wasn’t sure where that came from.<br />A cynic would say it came simply from<br />my experience as a hypnotherapist and from working with Jack,<br />but I felt differently.<br />Perhaps a spirit from his family did give me insight;<br />perhaps my Hypnotherapist Guide…<br />But who gave me that insight was totally unimportant,<br />the message and insight they gave me was!<br /><br />“Change his perceptions and you change his view of his life!”<br /><br />OK I got it… thanks, whoever you are.<br /><br />At the same instant, a thought came to me that if his mother <strong>had</strong> kept him,<br />he would have never known this loving couple who truly are “his parents”.<br />I realized (or was shown) that if his birth mother had kept him,<br />with what little we know about her,<br />his life could have been considerably worse;<br />possibly eating out of trash containers,<br />living on the street,<br />being subjected to drug users or worse.<br /><br />My feelings towards this young mother instantly changed.<br />Instead of anger towards her for abandoning her son,<br />I felt an overwhelming feeling of sympathy and sadness for her.<br /><br />Instead of the cold hearted, drug addicted tramp, who abandoned her child,<br />coldly walking away from him,<br /><br />I saw her as a young girl,<br />in over her head, in a life that she could not deal with herself,<br />not to mention trying to raise a child.<br />Her decision to give Jack up for adoption was not a selfish decision;<br />it was a heart-wrenchingly difficult decision that took three years to make.<br /><br />Once she realized that for Jack’s own good,<br />for his health,<br />for his future, which she could not provide for him,<br />the decision to give him up was the only one she had.<br /><br />And it was harder for her than Jack could have ever imagined.<br /><br />She did not abandon him; she gave her precious son away for his own good although she cries herself to sleep even now!<br /><br />If in my eyes, I could make a shift like that, what would happen to Jack’s attitude,<br />if he no longer looked at himself as a victim, abandoned by everyone who was supposed to be there for him?<br /><br />If I could help Jack fundamentally change his self image and his view of the people in his life, there wouldn’t be a need to control his anger, there would not be this overwhelming irrational anger there to control!<br /><br />The anger may just be gone with this change of perception.<br /><br />If he could only accept that he was loved and cherished and given away because his mother was convinced that it was the only choice she had and she had agonized over the decision for three years, he might just forgive her.<br /><br />And if he could forgive his birth mother, would he be able to forgive the rest?<br /><br />If the first family that adopted Jack, only to send him back to foster care, had kept him, he would have grown up in a family that could or would not have shown him the attention, love and caring he needed.<br />If that first adoptive couple had “kept” him, he never would have met and been adopted by this loving and supportive couple who became his REAL parents.<br /><br />That first adoptive family, in fact, like his mother knew he would be better without them.<br />If he could see that first couple for the realists that they were instead of the selfish self-centered people he had viewed them as, forgiveness would be possible there too.<br /><br />The plan came to me in a second;<br />I knew exactly how to proceed.<br />I thanked my hypnosis guide and continued.<br /><br />Jack was already in a very deep state of hypnosis.<br />At this point, he is so good at going into the “altered state”, as we call it,<br />I simply say, “Ready?”<br />he nods,<br />I say “SLEEP!”<br />and he is there, in deep hypnosis.<br />I take no credit for it, I don’t think of what a great hypnotist I am, I simply acknowledge that the more often you hypnotize someone, the easier it is to hypnotize them again.<br /><br />The session worked great.<br />I asked his angry part to come out and speak with me, which it did often and easily.<br /><br />His Angry part stated that although he knew he was wrong in saying those hurtful things to his father and it was sorry for saying them, it cannot apologize and can’t forgive.<br /><br />I asked his Angry part why he can’t forgive and it said<br />“No one loves Jack, they all reject him, if he forgives, he’ll only be hurt again, they don’t care about anyone except themselves…”<br /><br />I asked him to go back to the time he was three, his mother had him by the hand and walked him to the door of the foster care facility.<br />He agreed and as he sat visualizing the scene, I saw he was getting angrier.<br /><br />I asked him to look at his birth mother and describe her.<br />“She’s angry,<br />she’s ugly,<br />she has hard eyes,<br />she is pulling me by my arm,<br />she shakes me and says to stay,<br />she rings the bell,<br />the door opens,<br />she turns away,<br />she doesn’t say goodbye,<br />she doesn’t kiss me,<br />she turns,<br />she walks away…<br />I never see her again”<br />All this said with an undertone of anger, teeth clenched his brow deeply furrowed.<br /><br />After some relaxation techniques, I asked him to picture what happened from a different angle… From his mother’s angle…<br />he was initially resistant.<br />I explained that there are two sides to every story and this may be his mother’s version…<br /><br />“She is crying,<br />she has tried for three years to provide for her son,<br />she lost her job,<br />she is going to lose her apartment,<br />she has no husband to help her,<br />decisions she made in her life were very wrong<br />but she knows that is not Jack’s fault, she realizes he didn’t ask to be born,<br />she takes responsibility,<br />she finally realizes that she cannot keep Jack and she goes to the foster care agency.<br /><br />She walks to the house and can’t look at Jack,<br />her heart is breaking,<br />she doesn’t want Jack to see her cry so she turns her head away from him,<br />Jack is three…<br />a baby…<br />he doesn’t know what is going on…<br />She rings the bell,<br />her hands are shaking,<br />she considers picking up her baby and running, but to where?<br />The door opens,<br />she turns and takes a step away,<br />her heart feels so heavy she thinks she is going to die and she walks away,<br />she turns the corner,<br />her legs give way,<br />she falls to the ground,<br /><br />she cries until there are no more tears left to shed…<br /><br />This process is called “Reframing” where you actually change the perception of the memory.<br />It doesn’t change history, he was put up for adoption and he was adopted and then returned, he was rejected, but now his view of the villains in these memories changed.<br /><br />No longer villains, they were victims also.<br />I found a new appreciation for reframing a person’s perceptions.<br />I also found a new appreciation for the power of forgiveness.<br /><br />After the session was over, he seemed like a different boy.<br />He was smiling and happy.<br />His parents, who had just seen their son angry and hostile, were surprised to see him in such a happy mood so quickly.<br /><br />I don't know what will happen with Jack.<br />I hope that between his loving family, his intelligence, his emotional growth, and continued counseling, he will learn how to forgive and to trust people again.<br />I do know that it has been a learning and growing experience not just for Jack and his family, but for me also.<br />It has also been an experience that I will remember and cherish;<br />being part of the evolution of this young man’s life.<br />After all, that is why we are all here on this planet...<br />to learn and grow.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-45152151633784135312009-11-09T00:14:00.004-05:002009-11-09T00:36:33.652-05:00Jack and Anger Management - Part 2Synopsis,<br />This posting is a follow-up to a previous article titled “Anger Management and the Adolescent Child”.<br /><a href="http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2008/08/anger-management-article.html">http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2008/08/anger-management-article.html</a><br />In this, Part 2, I review what has happened since Jack’s initial sessions and the two most recent sessions. I describe why I realized I had to change my approach to help Jack with his anger management issues. In Part 3, I describe how I went from directing him to accept his anger to using forgiveness to allow him to control and hopefully eliminate his anger.<br /><br />In my posting titled “Anger Management and the Adolescent Child”<br /><a href="http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2008/08/anger-management-article.html">http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2008/08/anger-management-article.html</a><br />I introduced you to Jack. A fourteen and a half year old, adopted young man with many emotional problems, not the least was the inability to manage his anger.<br />I have seen Jack ten times since then and he is now almost 16 (“15 and ¾” according to Jack).<br /><br />His anger has continued to cause major complications and problems in his life, his parent’s lives and the lives of those around him.<br /><br />Our last session was in late October 2009, when we had what I feel was a major breakthrough.<br />I made a decision to change the direction I was taking with Jack in his attempt to understand, accept and control his anger. This decision to change my approach with Jack actually started in late August, when I received an email from his mother and I knew without speaking on the phone, that Jack and his parents were having a very bad time.<br /><br />I scheduled our session for mid September 2009, right after the start of the 2009/10 school year. At that session, I found out the Jack had been having many uncontrollable fits of rage.<br /><br />His mother, Diane told me on the phone, that while on vacation in August to the Grand Canyon, with the family, he had a meltdown; cursing, screaming and was totally out of control.<br />Jack’s parents did not know what triggered the explosion.<br />“One minute he was fine, not talking a lot, but fine. When Peter (Jack’s father) said that he couldn’t buy a trinket, he blew up! We had no clue it was going to happen. One minute everything was fine and the next there was complete bedlam.” After calming down, Jack realized that he was wrong, but realized that he was totally unable to control his anger and he asked Diane to set up an appointment with me.<br /><br />She also relayed a recent incident that happened at school, which ended with EMS being called to transport Jack to the hospital for observation. At the school and in the hospital, he was totally non-communicative. He would later tell us at that session that it was his attempt to control himself so he wouldn’t explode again. His method to control the anger from erupting was to totally shut off, saying that if he had said anything, he knew he would again lose control and once again explode. He was showing control in the attempt, but I needed to show him another way of controlling his anger, but I was running out of ideas.<br /><br />Our appointment was on a Monday and when Jack, Diane and Peter came into my office, Jack seemed very upset, biting his lip, very sullen, referring to his parents as “he” and “she”. His parents described what had happened the day before. The argument had gotten so loud and out of control, that Jack said it got physical, describing how his mother grabbed him around his throat.<br /><br />After a discussion involving how there are two sides to every story or argument, I got most of the facts needed and unfortunately, I saw a side of Jack that I had never seen before and it really concerned me.<br /><br />This was another fight over Jack hearing the word “NO”, but it went entirely out of control. His father who told him that he couldn’t do something (what the something was, in fact, was unimportant) and Jack again exploded. Throwing things yelling at his father and culminating with Jack screaming at both parents…<br /><br />“You are not my parents and never will be!” as he stormed away from them.<br /><br />Diane explained that, that is when she physically restrained him, in order to calm the situation down.<br /><br />In our past sessions, I felt that if he was conflicted by his anger, he needed to accept his anger in order to control it. Now he was accepting his anger so well, he was using it as a weapon to hurt the two people in the world who had proven to him that they would never reject him.<br /><br />And now <strong>he</strong> was rejecting <strong>them</strong>!<br /><br />I realized that the direction I was taking with Jack; specifically the acceptance of his anger did him a disservice.<br />I knew that if we could help him eliminate the anger, there would be no need to control it.<br /><br />Eliminating anger is always preferable to simply controlling it, but again… how?<br /><br />I knew that he had to accept the pain of growing up and that what was done, was done.<br />There was no changing history and the only way he would be able to get on with his life was to forgive everyone who hurt him.<br /><br />I knew that without finding that forgiveness for all the people in his life who had betrayed him, any time he felt the least bit of understandable or justified anger, he would explode, automatically releasing all the pent up pain, rejection, anger and fury inappropriately at everyone near him.<br /><br />The two people who warranted that release of anger the least and who unfortunately received it the most were his parents.<br /><br />“Did that happen?” I asked Jack, “Did you really say that your parents?”<br />He simply said, “Yes…” with no eye contact.<br /><br />I knew he was apologetic and wondered if his parents heard a real apology;<br />not just a gratuitous, “sorry…”<br /><br />I continued, “Do you really feel that way? That they aren’t your parents and never will be?”<br />He again simply shook his head, no and again with no eye contact.<br />His sadness was palpable.<br /><br />“Jack” I said, “Sometimes when you explode, you don’t think clearly and you can say things, really hurtful things, like what you said to your Mom and Dad, but you don’t mean them.<br />When these things are said, you want to take them back, but feel that it’s too late. So you want to apologize but you feel you can’t. Do you know what I’m saying?”<br /><br />He looked up and nodded in agreement, in a way that I knew, he agreed with my assessment of the situation.<br /><br />I continued, “Jack… Do you think that your mother would ever reject you? Now don’t answer right away… think about it…”<br /><br />Without a second’s hesitation, he looked up at me, then to Diane, shaking his head, saying strongly… “NO!, she wouldn’t”<br /><br />“Your father?” I asked. This time he hesitated a second, mulled over the question, took a deep breath and said truthfully and definitively… “No, he wouldn’t reject me either.”<br /><br />“Do you absolutely believe that?” I asked<br />“You are not just saying that… It is what you truly believe?<br />Your parents WOULD NOT… EVER REJECT YOU?... Right?” He quietly nodded “yes”<br /><br />“If you believe that, then, do you know how much it hurt these two people” referring to his parents" to hear those words from your mouth?”<br /><br />As he looked up at them, tears were starting to form in his eyes (along with his father’s, his mother’s and mine).<br /><br />The next posting will be next week and will conclude this 3 part Posting, reviewing the change in the way I used hypnotic intervention in Jack’s situation.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-35483174875000453172009-08-28T23:21:00.003-04:002009-08-28T23:52:42.151-04:00Claustrophobia, Elevators, Hypnosis and Michelle Part 2Synopsis,<br />In Part 2 of this posting, I describe our hypnosis session and what was uncovered. Three days after our session, I spoke with Michelle’s mother who described the effects of our session. I offer my evaluation and comments on this hypnotic intervention.<br /><br /><strong>Claustrophobia, Elevators, Hypnosis and Michelle Part 2</strong><br /><br />Michelle felt comfortable having her mother present during the session, <br />so the three of us moved from the waiting room in the front of my office <br />to my office to the back, <br />where Michelle sat on my recliner and her mother sat on a chair in the doorway.<br /><br />The session began with new age type music; <br />Steven Halpern’s “Higher Ground”, <br />playing in the background.<br /><br />I used a standard hypnotic “induction” called progressive relaxation and when Michelle allowed herself to relax and go into “the altered state” of hypnosis, I deepened her trance state by bringing her to a very safe place.<br /><br />Michelle was a great hypnotic subject. <br />In a comparison to the general public, <br />regarding the ability to go deeply into hypnosis, <br />she is probably in the top 10 percent, <br />going very quickly, easily and deeply into “Somnambulism” (the most effective state of hypnosis).<br /><br />When I work with a new client, <br />I must plan the session I will use with them, as we are talking. <br />The “small talk” is very important for me because I get insight to decide which hypnotic techniques from the hundreds available, is right for my client.<br /><br />In talking with Michelle and her mother, <br />I decided that a combination of three techniques, <br />which I have used before, in cases like Michelle’s, <br />would probably work very effectively.<br /><br />My plan for Michelle was to use <br />-“Parts Therapy” to identify the claustrophobic part of Michelle that was so fearful of elevators and once that part is found, <br />I would use;<br />-“Regression Therapy” to go back in time to the very first time this fearful part was formed. <br />This “First time” experience is known as the “ISE” The Initial Sensitizing Event and sets the foundation for the fear to grow; <br />and finally <br />-“Gestalt Therapy” to change her perception of the fear itself, <br />in order to eliminate the fear completely and permanently.<br /><br />After Michelle was in a deep hypnotic state, I had her seek out that claustrophobic part of her subconscious (Parts Therapy). <br /><br />When that part was found, we worked together to get in touch with how Michelle physically felt when in an elevator. <br />We followed that feeling to earlier and earlier times in her life <br />(Regression Therapy), until we found the ISE. <br /><br />Her ISE was when she was four years old in Disneyworld. <br />She recalled being in her father’s arms as they were entering an elevator. <br />He reacted to the thought of being in an elevator with a powerful panic attack, running out of the elevator. <br /><br />She realized that that was why she became claustrophobic. <br />Her father, who was her protector, demonstrated that there is something to desperately fear when in an elevator. <br /><br />She was shown, exactly how and why this fear was accepted by her four year old self (Gestalt Therapy) <br />and with a little more insight, <br />she realized that the fear was not truly hers, <br />but an adopted fear that was no longer necessary. <br /><br />Her hypnosis session went absolutely perfectly!<br /><br />When the session was over, Mary said that she remembered the elevator experience but never realized that it was that experience that caused Michelle’s fear. <br /><br />Michelle said that although she now remembers the experience, the memory had been repressed.<br /><br />We went back out to my waiting room to discuss the session in greater detail. <br /><br />I wanted to know what concerns Michelle still had. <br /><br />For people who have just experienced hypnotic intervention for the relief of a phobia, the greatest concern is the “What-If’s”. <br />Specifically, What if it didn’t work?<br /><br />When I brought up the “What-if” concern, both Mary and Michelle said that that was their largest concern.<br /> <br />My response to the What-if’s, is that she must challenge herself. <br /><br />My suggestion was to go directly to the Rockaway Mall and go into every elevator in the place. <br /><br />Challenging herself to gain back the control that she had lost. <br />To challenge herself to gain control and not let the fear control her any longer.<br /><br />When they left my office, I felt absolutely confident that Michelle was going to be fear free and would gain control back in her life.<br /> <br />Three day later, I received a call from Mary. <br />“Garry, I have to tell you…”<br /><br />Her tone of voice concerned me, quiet and serious.<br /><br />“Damn” I thought, <br />her tone of voice sounds as if the fear that Michelle had was still present. <br />I was truly surprised. <br />Michelle’s session was picture perfect. <br />I would not have changed a single thing about the session; it was that perfect! <br />So why did I get the feeling that I was going to hear some bad news about the results of our session?<br /><br />I was overreacting and wrong…<br /><br />“I can’t express to you the results of your session with Michelle” <br />Mary started, <br />“Except to say, Thank you so, so much!”<br /><br />I felt as if a weight was removed from my shoulders! <br />I was relieved, happy and curious as to how they knew so quickly that the phobia was gone.<br /><br />“As you suggested, when we left you we went straight to the Rockaway Mall. <br />We went into every single elevator there and guess what?... <br />Not only did she have no fear at all, <br />but she was actually laughing in the elevator.”<br /> <br />When someone with fears similar to Michelle’s, <br />has had a lifelong phobia and gains their control back, <br />it is not uncommon for them to laugh <br />when they are in a situation that would have caused a phobic attack. <br /><br />Laughter is the indication that they are aware of the fact that they are no longer controlled by their fear. <br />The laughter is the release they feel when the fear is replaced by a sense of control.<br /><br />I always appreciate feedback from my clients. Some email me and I am thrilled to post their comments on my website.<br /><br />When I heard how good Michelle was doing, I felt thankful that I was able to help a young person eliminate a fear that had been ruining her life and had brought her such heartache. <br /><br />Even though it was Michelle who obviously gained the most from our session, each and every session I have, where I can contribute to someone’s happiness, I also gain. <br />I am thankful for that opportunity to participate in a situation where there is mutual joy and closure. <br /><br />If you are interested to learn more about fears and phobias, look at my 3 part article “PHOBIAS A to Z”<br /><br />http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2009_04_01_archive.html<br /><br />http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2009/05/phobias-from-to-z-part-2.html<br /><br />http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/2009/05/phobias-from-to-z-part-3.htmlGarry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-74684697437725148972009-08-09T18:13:00.003-04:002009-08-09T18:38:41.908-04:00Claustrophobia, Elevators, Hypnosis and Michelle- Part 1Synopsis;<br />This 2 part entry is about Michelle (not her real name) a 19 year old High School graduate who is going to be attending college in the fall of 2009. She has claustrophobia which manifests specifically in a fear of elevators and enclosed spaces. In Part 1, I describe in general, my experience with working with people who have phobias; getting a call from Michelle’s mother; my first impressions and the specific plan I decided to use to help Michelle eliminate this phobia and be able to fearlessly get on with her life. <br /><br /> <br /><strong>Claustrophobia, Elevators, Hypnosis and Michelle Part 1</strong><br /><br />The elimination of fears may be one of my most favorite hypnosis sessions. <br />I do believe there is no other type of intervention that has such a powerful and immediately positive result as hypnotic intervention for the purpose of eliminating a phobia.<br /><br />When people come to my office for the elimination of fears or phobias, it is as if they are sitting there in the waiting room, with a dark cloud over their head. Phobic people are consumed with their particular phobia. <br />If they are not currently in the midst of a phobic attack, which can manifest from a mild discomfort to a full blown panic attack, they are constantly dreading and anticipating the emergence of the symptoms. <br /><br />Very often fears or phobias take on a life of their own; <br />compounding, strengthening and sucking the joy from the person’s life. <br />Often the phobic person’s fear has been ruining their lives for as long as they can remember.<br /><br />There are many different types and causes of phobias (see my blog posting “Phobias from A to Z”) <br />http://hyp4lifellc.blogspot.com/search/label/Phobias <br /><br />There are also many commonalities between people with phobias.<br /> -These fears are very often lifelong fears.<br /> -They tend to become stronger over the years and manifest in other areas in the person’s life.<br /> -The victim of a phobia feels hopeless and helpless against their fear.<br /> -They feel alone in their fear; that no one truly can understand how the fear affects them.<br /> -That no one takes their fear seriously; saying thing like, “just deal with it” or “Get over it, you’re such a wimp!”<br /> -Often their self respect is negatively affected and they feel weak and helpless against it.<br /> -The phobia itself becomes a tangible entity always present, ready to pounce and steal away what little joy the victim has left.<br /><br />But, perhaps the most common and debilitating commonality is the “Tag Team” of “Anticipatory Anxiety” and the “Self-Fulfilling Prophesy”. <br />I call them a tag team because that is how they work; in tandem. <br />Anticipating the phobia, sets the stage for it to happen and unfortunately it almost always comes true.<br /><br />Michelle’s mother Mary (not her real name) called me with many concerns for her daughter.<br />Mary said that Michelle would be attending college in the fall of 2009 and there were elevators in the dorm. <br />When Michelle saw them her phobias went into high gear. <br />Mary also told me that Michelle had been coping with the fear of elevators and enclosed places, by avoiding them. <br />She had sought therapy, but it didn’t help and she was curious if hypnosis could help her daughter.<br />We made an appointment for the following week.<br /><br />In the office, my first impression was that Michelle was an attractive eighteen year old who reminded me of my daughter, when she was a senior in the same high school. <br /><br />As I normally do, I began the session with introductions and a brief biography about how I became involved with hypnosis; how hypnosis works; the conscious and sub-conscious mind; etc. <br />The reason for this small talk in the beginning is for many and specific reasons. <br />It allows people to get comfortable with me and it allows me to decide on which of the hundreds of hypnotic interventions available for me to use, is right for my client. <br />I allow extra time for what may seem to be “small talk” but in fact it is critical, so everyone is calm and relaxed, before we begin the hypnotherapeutic part of the session.<br /><br />I observed that Michelle was a bit nervous, which is very common and normal, but there was more. <br />She wanted it to work so badly and wanted to get right to the hypnosis. <br />Some people, who come to see me for the first time, may be a bit nervous and want to talk before the hypnosis session begins. <br />Michelle seemed distracted and I sensed that she did not want to talk at all. My sense was that she wanted to get right on with the hypnosis; small talk was unnecessary.<br /><br />I asked her if my hunch was correct… <br />that she was OK with hypnosis, <br />that she felt and hoped it would work and that she just wanted to do it and hopefully she would be “cured” of this fear that has taken the joy from her life.<br /><br />After explaining that I needed to know some more information from her, she relaxed and became less anxious to begin. I told her that we could get started as soon as I had all the information I needed. <br /><br />Michelle relayed to me how the fear ruined her life; <br />How she had an opportunity to see the taping of the Tyra Banks TV show <br />and as soon as she saw the elevator she couldn’t go in the building, <br />causing annoyance to her friends and fear, embarrassment and frustration to Michelle; <br />how her boyfriend is losing patience with having to adjust his social life to accommodate her fears, <br />along with a few more situations when her life was negatively impacted by her fear.<br /><br />I then asked her if she always had this fear and if anyone else in the family had similar phobias. She said that her fear was present for as long as she could remember and Mary offered the (important) fact that Michelle’s father and she had similar phobias. With a half smile, Mary suggested that perhaps “Michelle got it from us”, meaning her parents. <br /><br />I explained to them both that phobias are not genetic or hereditary; they are environmentally started. <br /><br />I felt that the fear started with a panic attack her father or mother experienced when Michelle was little and the fear imprinted in the subconscious of Michelle’s young mind.<br /><br />I described to both Mary and Michelle, what I planned to do. <br />Under hypnosis, I would have Michelle enter “The Hallway of Her Mind”, <br />seeking the “Part” of her that is frightened of enclosed places like elevators. <br />Once we allow the memory to come out of the sub-conscious, <br />I can then do a process called “Reframing” <br />where I actually change the way Michelle felt about the memory. <br /><br />The important thing to remember is that we do not eliminate the memory… <br />we can’t. <br />But we can change the way the person feels about the memory and thus, eliminating the fear associated with the thing that is frightening them so badly. <br /><br /><br />In the next posting <br /><strong>“Claustrophobia, Elevators, Hypnosis and Michelle Part 2”,</strong> <br />I will describe how the hypnosis session went and what was uncovered. <br />Three days after our session, <br />I spoke with Michelle’s mother who described the results and my evaluation and comments on this hypnotic intervention.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-57504646966156926762009-06-20T18:42:00.003-04:002009-06-20T19:00:59.046-04:00Our Changing Times - Our Amazing TimesIt is Saturday 6/20/2009 and it’s raining…<br />It has been raining now for three straight weeks in a row and it feels like three months in a row. I feel like a moldy wet rag and I can’t wait to see blue sky and the sun again.<br /><br />My wife is at work and I have the house to myself.<br />I have been struggling with a two-month-old writers block, but I have recently been feeling the urge (need) to write.<br /><br />So here I sit, at my kitchen, looking out into the wet, grey sky. Feeling blah…<br /><br />I have my laptop on the table, open to my book,<br />“Spiritual Evolution- A Journey from Atheism to Spirituality”…<br />I notice that for whatever reason, I am distracted.<br />I have the TV on CNN and I am engrossed by what I am seeing.<br /><br />Iran… What had been the “Axis of Evil” ...our enemy…<br />Is in the midst of another revolution.<br /><br />The first thirty years ago was bad for the US but worse for the world.<br /><br />Religious extremism of any type… Muslim, Christian, Jew is simply wrong.<br /><br />Now images of young Iranians putting their lives at risk in support of their freedom are on CNN and I can’t break away.<br />I see the bodies of young Iranians, lying bloody; being carried by their friends and relatives and my thoughts and prayers go to these young freedom fighters.<br /><br />I ask myself, Why is it that one small group of people who are in control of a larger group, always seem to resort to violence to keep that control?<br /><br />And I think of how sometimes, I take the precious gift of our freedom for granted.<br /><br />The rain outside my window suddenly seemed less dreary;<br />the clouds seemed less grey.<br /><br />In comparison to what was happening half the world away I feel embarrassed by my own selfishness and self centeredness.<br /><br />I am brought back to the early 1960’s with JFK as our president when I was a naïve, idealistic pre-teen.<br />The way I felt about our great country was to be challenged when that great man fell.<br />With each shameful act of violence to keep control, my idealism faded and my cynicism grew.<br />Robert Kennedy,Martin Luther King,<br />It seemed as soon as there was someone to believe in, someone else was there who didn’t believe and resorted to violence to stop any new hope.<br /><br />Again, my hope returned with the promise of the Clinton administration,<br />only to be disappointed by the man himself, but not his message.<br /><br />Now I am sitting at my same old kitchen table,<br />watching my same old TV and trying to write in my book,<br />but I am witness to an amazing change in a country thousands of miles away<br />that will not allow me to do anything but sit and watch change, in action.<br /><br />This change for freedom is being accomplished by the voice of the Iranian people and I am brought to the recent change in our country.<br /><br />Our change was peaceful, organized and a polar shift from the previous administration, with no violence.<br /><br />How great is this country?<br /><br />And I am once again an idealist no longer naïve; too much life experience in these 59 year old bones, hardened by too many “What could have been’s”.<br /><br />But here I am again,<br />Mr. Idealist and proud to be one.<br /><br />Now, always the optimist, even when I have been disappointed so often, I look at the TV and think of the “What If’s”.<br /><br />I think back to the time, seven months ago on Election Day 2008 (Another memory that will always remain with me).<br /><br />10 pm watching MSNBC and thinking<br />“He might actually do it! Obama may be the first African American president of the United States of America”.<br /><br />I remember thinking that this man, may be “The One…”<br />The one that Kennedy could have been, given the chance.<br /><br />But, Obama is different than all the rest or at least it feels that way to me… This time I don’t think I will be disappointed.<br /><br />I gave myself the audacity to think... “What if”.<br /><br />And at 11pm when Keith Obermann said<br />“MSNBC now projects that Barack Obama IS the next president of the US”, with my jaw agape and a tear in my eye, I thought “What if?”<br /><br />What if he can change the view the world has of my country?<br />What if he can bring us together?<br />What if this was just the beginning of the changes?<br /><br />"What If" there is the same change in Iran?<br />And now I am sitting at the same old table…<br />In the same chair…<br />Watching the same TV… on the same channel,<br />But the world could be very different tomorrow…<br />What if we could actually have World Peace, for our children?!<br /><br />This is certainly an amazing time to be alive on this planet.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-75464191896255236372009-05-10T23:59:00.002-04:002009-05-11T07:51:10.952-04:00PHOBIAS from A to Z - Part 3Synopsis;<br />In this, the third posting on Phobias, I write about how hypnosis can help with the removal of phobias; the hypnotic method I use to control and eliminate phobias and a case study of a client who had a lifelong fear of the water but no longer has Hydrophobia - Fear of water.<br /><div align="center"><br />How hypnosis helps</div><br />There are many “tools” a hypnotherapist has at his disposal. I tend to combine different tools to make the most effective therapy for each client.<br /><br />No two people are the same, so through combining different proven therapies and techniques, I offer each client an individualized plan of action; this is at the core of “Transpersonal Hypnotherapy”.<br /><br />I have found that the most powerful and effective method of eliminating phobias is to combine two different hypnotic techniques; “Parts Therapy” and “Regression Therapy”.<br /><br />Parts Therapy, is a technique developed in the 1950’s by Charles Tebbetts, a hypnotherapist who found that you can have a dialog with a “Part” of a person’s subconscious.<br /><br />Regression Therapy is a hypnotic technique used to have a person go back in time to where the fear started.<br /><br />Combining the two works very effectively to find the memory that caused the phobia and then with other therapies, eliminate the fear and give back control to the person.<br /><br />Under hypnosis, a person with a phobia is directed to a comfortable place and given the suggestion that they are safe and have survived whatever caused the fear.<br /><br />Once I determine the source of the phobia and more importantly the person remembers what had been a repressed memory, the power and fear the memory had had is greatly diminished.<br /><div align="center"><br />Case Study on Hydrophobia - Sue</div><br />This is a case study of a young woman who was able to overcome her lifelong fear of the water with one hypnosis session.<br /><br />Sue (not her real name) called, asking about the effectiveness of hypnosis for stopping a phobia of water. She described her fear as “not afraid of showers, but I never take a bath!” Her voice shook as she even mentioned a bath.<br /><br />She continued describing how she never goes in a pool or the beach, that she can’t swim and was deathly afraid of being on a boat.<br /><br />We made an appointment for the following Monday. It would be our first and only session.<br /><br />At the beginning of her session, she relayed how the phobia was being controlled by avoiding the places where she would be around water.<br /><br /><blockquote>“I have been able to deal really well with the fear, I just don’t go in a pool, a lake, the beach or the ocean. I take showers instead of a bath. I never put myself in a situation when I would take a cruise or be on the water. So I felt that I didn’t need any help, I dealt with the fear by avoiding water and I was fine. But I now have a major problem and it will ruin my life if I can’t fix it.” </blockquote><br /><br />She relayed to me that she is a single mother of a nine year old boy.<br />She is engaged to a wonderful man who loves her and her son.<br />Her fiancée wants to marry her and adopt her son.<br /><br />She described a perfect relationship and then informed me of the majorly huge hurdle in her life.<br /><br />“He has a house on Lake Hopatcong, with a dock and a speed boat” she said as if telling me he had a terminal disease.<br /><br />“He loves his boat! He is on the lake every weekend and all summer long!<br />His friends, who I love, all have boats!<br />Our whole social life is on the water!<br />My son loves being there with him and he wants me to go out so badly, but as soon as I step foot on the dock, I start to shake!<br />Once he actually had to carry me off the dock!<br />PLEASE, PLEASE HELP ME!”<br /><br />I told her that hypnosis can help.<br /><br />Fortunately, she was an excellent hypnotic subject, who went almost immediately into a very deep state of hypnosis.<br />As I described earlier, I brought out her “fearful part” and had that part of her “Regress” - go back in time to the very first time she was aware of her hydrophobia.<br /><br />Without going into great detail, I had her go to a time when she wasn’t afraid of water and then “Progressed” her to a time when she was fearful.<br /><br />As I observed her, a memory reflected through the expression on her face.<br /><br />“I was 9 years old…” she said in a faint whisper.<br /><br />“My parents wanted me to learn how to swim, so we went to the lake (Hopatcong) and they hired a lifeguard to teach me…”<br /><br />“Oh my God, I see it all so clearly…” she said, her eyes closed, yet I could see her eyes moving left and right.<br /><br />“We went into the water which was up to my neck. The lifeguard held me so I was on my stomach. He told me to breathe when he said I should and he held my face in the water and turned my head up yelling<br /><br />‘BREATH!...<br />HOLD!...<br />BREATH!’<br /><br />He kept holding my head underwater, pulling me out only when I was choking!...”<br /><br />Whispering, “I never remembered that until this very moment”, tears streaming down her face.<br /><br />I then did some hypnotic techniques called “Reframing” where she gained back the control that had been taken from her.<br /><br />After the session, she thanked me and I told her the only way she will know for sure that she is phobia free is to test herself on the boat. She agreed, with the comment, I'll call you for another appointment if it doesn't work.<br /><br />That weekend my phone rang and it was Sue, she was on her cell phone.<br /><br />There was a lot of noise in the background.<br /><br />“Garry?” she said.<br /><br />“I wanted to thank you for saving my life!”<br /><br />I think she was exaggerating, but the feeling you get when you realize a joy-draining phobia is eliminated can make a person exaggerate a little.<br /><br />“I am calling from the boat!"<br /><br />"Me and my new family we are on the lake! I can’t believe it… It is so much fun! Thank you so much!”<br /><br />If you are plagued by a phobia, you don’t have to deal with it, you can eliminate it and realize how much better your life can be phobia-free!Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-63056303634374580172009-05-02T22:58:00.003-04:002009-05-03T22:34:44.170-04:00PHOBIAS from A to Z - Part 2Synopsis; In this, the second posting on Phobias, I write about how the natural process of the primitive part of the brain contributes to the acquisition of phobias; how phobias form; the hypnotic method I use to control and eliminate phobias.<br /><br />In the last posting “Phobias from A to Z – Part 1”, I describe how the primitive brain effects the “Fight or Flight” instinct.<br />In the cave man example, you can see how, because it was so necessary to react instantly to perceived threats, the functioning of the primitive brain was essential for survival of the human race.<br /><br />Keep in mind, that the cause (the killing of a clan member) of the Fight or Flight instinct would be repressed.<br /><br />The horror of witnessing the killing of a loved one would be blocked from the awareness of the young clan member by their subconscious.<br /><br />However, the reaction to seeing a jaguar (the symbol of the horror) would result in an immediate, critical and unthinking response.<br />You may say that the young clan member had a phobia of jaguars.<br /><br />In modern society, the threat to your survival is much more complex than those of ancient times. Say what you will, the society we live in today is obviously more civil than that of primitive times. The human brain has also advanced, but still, at its’ core is the same primitive brain stem that helped our ancient ancestors to survive and become the modern day human being.<br /><br />Our subconscious has many functions, not all are yet known to us. It is a protector, a servant, and the storehouse of knowledge, memories, emotions, habits and much more.<br /><br />Referring again, to the caveman analogy from Part 1, you can see why the function of repressing the horrific memory, while automatically causing a fight or flight reaction, was critical to survival.<br /><br />However, in a society where we are not threatened with life or death on a daily basis, the function that was essential to the survival of a primitive man is now, in a modern society, contributing to the manifestation of so many phobias.<br /><br /><div align="center"><br />How do phobias form?</div><br />Generally speaking, phobias can form in two ways.<br />In an adult, a phobia can form after a severe traumatic experience, such as a plane crash or a life threatening accident. In a traumatic experience, you can understand how a phobia could start. These phobias are usually temporary and fade with time.<br /><br />Phobias formed in childhood are much more common and devastating.<br />When a child, between two and seven is witness to a traumatic experience (or a perceived traumatic experience) their primitive brain stem reacts the same as a primitive man; repressing the specific memory and triggering the “Fight or Flight Response”.<br />The memory of the traumatic incident is buried or repressed, again, by the subconscious, but the reaction to seeing the symbol of the trauma is reacted to in the same way our ancestors did.<br /><br />Each time the repressed memory is stirred, whether by seeing or experiencing something that would stir that memory, the phobic reaction is stirred.<br />The reaction stirred by these repressed memories present themselves as phobias, each time the repressed memory is stimulated.<br />The phobic person will feel a variety of emotions, from mild discomfort to a full-blown panic attack.<br /><br /><div align="center"><br />Phobic Commonalities</div><blockquote>“…I always had the fear of public speaking. Every time I needed to speak in front of people, my face would get red hot, I’d sweat… my voice would shake, I couldn’t breath. I assumed that I had ALWAYS been that way. I didn’t know any different. Then when I was hypnotized, the memory of my 2nd grade class came to me, my teacher and the kids in the class laughing at me; it all came back… I finally remembered and understood why I had the phobia. And it stopped! I couldn’t and still can’t believe it, but it worked!...” </blockquote><br />a quote from Phil, a Police Captain with a severe public speaking phobia.<br />One common feeling many people with phobias have is the lack of knowledge or understanding of where and why they have their particular phobia.<br />Many people, who have had hypnotic intervention for the relief of a phobia, have told me that they remembered how and why the phobia began, only after being hypnotized.<br /><br /><div align="center"><br />The Self-Fulfilling Prophesy of a phobia. </div><blockquote>“…Sometimes I think I will get an attack, and it happens, I’ll be fine until the<br />thought of chocking comes into my mind and then it happens…”, </blockquote><br />a quote from Mary, a 47 year old who had a fear of chocking her whole life.<br />Very often sufferers of phobias will actually predict an attack happening.<br />This self-fulfilling prophesy aspect of phobias are common to all phobias.<br />Unfortunately, when you allow a thought to come into your mind, it is an exercise in futility to get it out. When you anticipate it happening it will happen.<br /><br /><div align="center"><br />The Anticipatory Anxiety factor; the third commonality… </div><blockquote>“… I live with the phobia, I stay inside, but I also live with the fear of when it will happen; it can be worse than the fear itself… I live 24-7 with either the fear of seeing a bird or the fear of the phobia of seeing a bird”,<br /></blockquote><br />a quote from Karen, a 50 year old hairstylist with a fear of birds.<br />The fear of the phobia becomes worse than the fear itself. When a phobia is so ingrained, a person has no joy in their life because it (the phobia) is all they think of.<br /><br />When you are in the midst of a phobic attack, you feel that you are alone in your fear and there is nothing that you can do!<br /><br />It controls you and you are powerless to take that control back.<br /><br />It takes on a presence of its own. All too often, people who have phobias will try to simply, avoid any chance of being where their phobia may be activated.<br />If you have a fear of birds, like Karen, you stay indoors.<br /><br />If, like Phil, you have a public speaking phobia, you would never put yourself in a position to be speaking in front of a crowd.<br /><br />However, what if you must deal with a phobia?<br /><br />You can go to “Talk Therapy”, where you can discuss where and when it started and if you find the cause, you can find closure and cure.<br /><br />You may learn coping strategies to “live with” the phobia.<br /><br />However, if the function of the subconscious is the protector that will block the painful memory that causes the phobia AND is the store room for all your memories, it becomes quite difficult to determine where and when it started.<br />The place, the subconscious, which has the information for you to understand why you have a phobia, is the same place that is designed to keep that information from you.<br />I call this a phobic’s “Catch-22” and it is no joking matter.<br /><br />I combine two hypnosis processes for the elimination of phobias. Combining Parts Therapy with Regression Therapy, works very powerfully to allow the sufferer of a phobia, get their life back.<br /><br />In the next posting, titled “Phobias A to Z - Part 3” I will describe how hypnosis helps a phobic person eliminate the phobia and describe a case study about Sue, a single mom with a lifelong phobia of water- hydrophobia.<br /><br />Feel free to make a comment on y blog, I will be happy to post it.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-3037033039009938802009-04-10T00:20:00.003-04:002009-05-02T22:56:28.190-04:00PHOBIAS from A to Z - Part 1Synopsis;<br />In this posting I cover the subject of phobias. There is a listing of many phobias in alphabetical order and a lighthearted and serious view of phobias. I also give definitions of phobias, the brain the functioning of the sub-conscious and its effect on the conscious mind and how the brain forms phobias.<br /><br />Phobias from A to Z<br /><br />Fears and phobias have been with us since we first walked the planet.<br />They have been the subject of stories around a campfire, of books, of short stories, movies, radio shows, television and more.<br /><br />As you can see from the following list, there are hundreds of phobias;<br />some seem understandable like Lilapsophobia – the fear of tornadoes;<br />some seem silly like Dendrophobia – the fear of trees;<br />some seem obvious like Aichmophobia – the fear of needles;<br />some seem bizarre like Octophobia – the fear of the number 8;<br />some seem strange like Barophobia – the fear of gravity;<br />some seem exhausting like Somniphobia – the fear of sleep;<br />some seem redundant like Phobophobia – the fear of phobias;<br />some make sense like Atychiphobia – the fear of failure<br />and<br />some seem common, like the number 1 phobia in the world...<br />Glossophobia - Fear of speaking in public.<br /><br />Below is an alphabetical listing of just some phobias…<br /><br />Achluophobia - Fear of darkness.<br />Acrophobia - Fear of heights.<br />Agliophobia - Fear of pain.<br />Agoraphobia - Fear of open spaces or crowds.<br />Aichmophobia - Fear of needles or pointed objects.<br />Amaxophobia - Fear of riding in a car.<br />Androphobia - Fear of men.<br />Anginophobia - Fear of angina or choking.<br />Anthrophobia - Fear of flowers.<br />Anthropophobia - Fear of people or society.<br />Aphenphosmphobia - Fear of being touched.<br />Arachnophobia - Fear of spiders.<br />Arithmophobia - Fear of numbers.<br />Astraphobia - Fear of thunder and lightening.<br />Ataxophobia - Fear of disorder or untidiness.<br />Atelophobia - Fear of imperfection.<br />Atychiphobia - Fear of failure.<br />Autophobia - Fear of being alone.<br />Bacteriophobia - Fear of bacteria.<br />Barophobia - Fear of gravity.<br />Bathmophobia - Fear of stairs or steep slopes.<br />Batrachophobia - Fear of amphibians.<br />Belonephobia - Fear of pins and needles.<br />Bibliophobia - Fear of books.<br />Botanophobia - Fear of plants.<br />Cacophobia - Fear of ugliness.<br />Catagelophobia - Fear of being ridiculed.<br />Catoptrophobia - Fear of mirrors.<br />Chionophobia - Fear of snow.<br />Chromophobia - Fear of colors.<br />Chronomentrophobia - Fear of clocks.<br />Claustrophobia - Fear of confined spaces.<br />Coulrophobia - Fear of clowns.<br />Cyberphobia - Fear of computers.<br />Cynophobia - Fear of dogs.<br />Dendrophobia - Fear of trees.<br />Dentophobia - Fear of dentists.<br />Domatophobia - Fear of houses.<br />Dystychiphobia - Fear of accidents.<br />Ecophobia - Fear of the home.<br />Elurophobia - Fear of cats.<br />Entomophobia - Fear of insects.<br />Ephebiphobia - Fear of teenagers.<br />Equinophobia - Fear of horses.<br />Gamophobia - Fear of marriage.<br />Genuphobia - Fear of knees.<br />Glossophobia - Fear of speaking in public.<br />Gynophobia - Fear of women.<br />Heliophobia - Fear of the sun.<br />Hemophobia - Fear of blood.<br />Herpetophobia - Fear of reptiles.<br />Hydrophobia - Fear of water.<br />Iatrophobia - Fear of doctors.<br />Insectophobia - Fear of insects.<br />Koinoniphobia - Fear of rooms.<br />Leukophobia - Fear of the color white.<br />Lilapsophobia - Fear of tornadoes and hurricanes.<br />Lockiophobia - Fear of childbirth.<br />Mageirocophobia - Fear of cooking.<br />Megalophobia - Fear of large things.<br />Melanophobia - Fear of the color black.<br />Microphobia - Fear of small things.<br />Mysophobia - Fear of dirt and germs.<br />Necrophobia - Fear of death or dead things.<br />Noctiphobia - Fear of the night.<br />Nosocomephobia - Fear of hospitals.<br />Obesophobia - Fear of gaining weight.<br />Octophobia - Fear of the number 8.<br />Ombrophobia - Fear of rain.<br />Ophidiophobia - Fear of snakes.<br />Ornithophobia - Fear of birds.<br />Papyrophobia - Fear of paper.<br />Pathophobia - Fear of disease.<br />Pedophobia - Fear of children.<br />Philophobia - Fear of love.<br />Phobophobia - Fear of phobias.<br />Podophobia - Fear of feet.<br />Porphyrophobia - Fear of the color purple.<br />Pteridophobia - Fear of ferns.<br />Pteromerhanophobia - Fear of flying.<br />Pyrophobia - Fear of fire.<br />Scolionophobia - Fear of school.<br />Selenophobia - Fear of the moon.<br />Sociophobia - Fear of social evaluation.<br />Somniphobia - Fear of sleep.<br />Tachophobia - Fear of speed.<br />Technophobia - Fear of technology.<br />Tonitrophobia - Fear of thunder.<br />Trypanophobia - Fear of injections.<br />Venustraphobia - Fear of beautiful women.<br />Verminophobia - Fear of germs.<br />Wiccaphobia - Fear of witches and witchcraft.<br />Xenophobia - Fear of strangers or foreigners.<br />Zoophobia - Fear of animals.<br /><br />The one thing that all phobias have in common, (actually, there are many more than “one thing”) is that they are no laughing matter for the millions of people who suffer from them.<br /><br />A phobia that may seem silly or insignificant to you may be ruining the life of its victim.<br />People who suffer from phobias are in a constant state of apprehension and fear.<br />They are haunted by their fear both day and night,<br />by what is causing it;<br />by when it will happen again;<br />if they will ever be able to control it;<br />will they be embarrassed by their phobic attack?<br /><br />Their lives are controlled by their particular phobia<br />and they are helpless to control their fears<br />and because they are helpless, they become hopeless.<br /><br /><br />Fortunately, I have found a very effective tool to help people with phobias gain control over their fears<br />and with this control, comes hope and finally a life free from debilitating fear.<br /><br />The tool I am referring to is Hypnosis;<br />specifically PARTS Therapy.<br />Started in the 1950’s by Charles Tebbetts, this therapy goes directly to the “part” of the subconscious where the phobia resides, or more accurately…hides.<br /><br />In order to understand and overcome the debilitating effects of a phobia, we first must thoroughly understand exactly what a phobia is, how it works from the subconscious and how it was formed.<br />Then, armed with that understanding a person with a phobia has the tools to overcome it;<br />to live a happier, normal fear-free life.<br /><br />So…<br /><br />“What is a Phobia?”<br /><br />“Medline Plus” describes a phobia as<br /><br /><blockquote><p>“…a type of anxiety disorder. It is a strong, irrational fear of something that poses little or no actual danger. There are many specific phobias. Acrophobia is a fear of heights. You may be able to ski the world's tallest mountains but be unable to go above the 5th floor of an office building. Agoraphobia is a fear of public places, and claustrophobia is a fear of closed-in places. If you become anxious and extremely self-conscious in everyday social situations, you could have a social phobia. Other common phobias involve tunnels, highway driving, water, flying, animals and blood...”<br /></p></blockquote>Wikipedia has a longer description and describes a phobia as<br /><br /><blockquote>“…a morbid fear; an irrational, intense, persistent fear of certain situations,<br />activities, things, or people. The main symptom of this disorder is the excessive, unreasonable desire to avoid the feared subject. When the fear is beyond one's control, or if the fear is interfering with daily life it is considered a phobia… "<br />"...Phobias (in the clinical meaning of the term) are the most common form of anxiety disorders. An American study by the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) found that between 8.7% and 18.1% of Americans suffer from phobias. Broken down by age and gender, the study found that phobias were the most common mental illness among women in all age groups and the second most common illness among men older than 25...”<br />"...Most psychologists and psychiatrists classify phobias into three categories:<br /><strong>Social phobia</strong>,<br />also known as social anxiety disorder - fears involving other people or social situations such as performance anxiety or fears of embarrassment by scrutiny of others, such as eating in public. Social phobia may be further subdivided into <em>generalized social phobia</em>, and <em>specific social phobia</em>, which are cases of anxiety triggered only in specific situations.<br /><strong>Specific phobias</strong> -<br />fear of a single specific panic trigger such as spiders, snakes, dogs, elevators, water,<br />waves, flying, balloons, catching a specific illness, etc.<br /><strong>Agoraphobia</strong> -<br />a generalized fear of leaving home or a small familiar 'safe' area, and of possible panic attacks that might follow.,,"<br />The human brain is the center of the human nervous system and is a highly complex organ. It has the same general structure as the brains of other mammals, but is over five times as large as the "average brain" of a mammal with the same body size. Most of the expansion comes from the cerebral cortex, a convoluted layer of neural tissue that covers the surface of the forebrain. Especially expanded are the frontal lobes, which are involved in executive functions such as self-control, planning, reasoning, and abstract thought. The portion of the brain devoted to vision is also greatly<br />enlarged in humans.<br /></blockquote>The brain is the physical home of the conscious and subconscious…<br /><br />OK…<br /><br />We can (and I have) researched the heck out of phobias, but I can never find in my research, where they come from…<br />How and why they form…<br /><br />Through working with many people with phobias,<br />I have found my own method of helping phobic people<br />and it doesn’t include months and months of talking sessions.<br /><br />If you have no idea where it came from, what is the point of talking about phobias endlessly?<br />I feel it only strengthens its hold over you.<br /><br />As I have described in other posts, the subconscious is the servant to the conscious mind, but by some of the complications it causes, you may disagree with that statement.<br /><br />Picture this…<br /><br />You are a caveman,<br />living a hunter/ gatherer existence.<br />You are primitive, living with your clan<br />and you are also hunted by other larger predators.<br /><br />In order to survive, you must react instantly to a perceived threat.<br />But how do you instantly react?<br /><br />Your primitive brain comes into play with the “Fight or Flight” instinct.<br />But it is not a true instinct, it must be learned…<br /><br />So, there you are in the forest,<br />with your clan,<br />hunting rabbits,<br />picking vegetables etc.<br /><br />You are 5 years old walking behind your mother.<br />Suddenly a large Jaguar leaps on your older brother,<br />dragging him screaming, bleeding and dying into the bush!<br /><br />Your tribe instantly reacts!<br />The men throw their weapons!<br />The women grab you and the other small ones and run!<br />The image is burned into your mind, permanently!<br /><br />To survive, they reacted instantly…<br />Fought and Fled and survived.<br /><br />But, so that you never remember the horror of seeing the death of your brother,<br />your subconscious mind repressed and blocked the image of the scene from your conscious awareness.<br /><br />You can’t recall your brother’s death,<br />but to survive,<br />it also lets the emotions of the event react in your mind,<br />each and every time the image of a Jaguar comes to you.<br /><br />When seeing a Jaguar, from that moment on, you would either fight or flee,<br />without thought…<br /><br />reaction MUST be immediate, without thought…<br />to survive.<br /><br />So when a Jaguar is seen,<br />you like all your clan, react immediately almost instinctively,<br />but you will never remember why you react the way you do;<br />and you and your clan… survive.<br /><br />This response is hard wired in our brains right now, from our distant past,<br />but… what was a survival mechanism then, is now causing phobias.<br /><br />Webliography<br />Google<br /><a href="http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/phobias.html">http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/phobias.html</a><br />Wikipedia<br /><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phobia">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phobia</a><br /><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_brain">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_brain</a><br /><br /><br />In my next posting titled “Phobias A to Z - Part 2”<br />I will be describing how this survival mechanism from our past, causes our phobias; how phobias are formed; and commonalities between many phobias.<br />Please feel free to make comments.Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-88922654269242230672009-02-21T22:59:00.000-05:002009-02-21T22:59:00.532-05:00Past Life Regression as a TherapySynopsis;<br />This article is about the therapeutic use of Past Life Regression, a definition of what a Past Life Regression is and how experiencing a Past Life can help you understand yourself better, as taught by Dr. Brian Weiss.<br /><br />Before reading about Past Life Regressions, it would be helpful to have a working definition of what a PLR is. The following definition is by Florence Wagner McClain of the Llewellyn Encyclopedia <a href="http://www.llewellynencyclopedia.com/article/169">http://www.llewellynencyclopedia.com/article/169</a> and I find to be quite accurate.<br /><br /><br /><blockquote><p><span style="color:#000099;">"Past life regression is just remembering.<br />Stored in your subconscious mind are the memories of all of your experiences since you became a soul with the awareness of your individuality. Regression is reaching into those memory banks to recapture the events of past lifetimes.<br /><br /></span><span style="color:#000099;">It isn't so very different from trying to remember events that took place during your early childhood. At first, the memories may be dim and few, but each event remembered sparks another memory and another until it becomes easy. </span><span style="color:#000099;"><br /><br />In one way, you might compare it to an information storage system that has had little or no use for a long period of time. Some of the file drawers are stuck, or rusty. There are a few cobwebs here and there. Dust is thick and fills the air making it difficult to see. Some of the light bulbs have burned out, and the file clerk has taken an extended vacation. </span></p><p><span style="color:#000099;">But-a little attention here and there, putting the system on notice that you intend to make extensive use of it, and everything slowly begins to shift into gear. Shortly the system is running efficiently, retrieving the memories and information you request.<br /><br />There are many ways to get the attention of your 'file clerk,' or gain access to your subconscious. Nearly everyone has experienced a form of spontaneous regression. For example, have you ever met someone for the first time, but felt an immediate kinship as if you were old and intimate friends? You probably were friends in some past lifetime, and the presence of that soul caused your subconscious to produce the proper emotion for that far-past relationship.<br /></span><span style="color:#000099;"><br />Perhaps you have traveled to some strange place only to find that it is familiar to you-you have a feeling of being at home. No doubt it was home to you sometime in the past. These are not uncommon experiences.<br /><br />Very young children often have fairly clear memories of past lives. Sometimes these memories take the form of daydreams or are acted out in play. Occasionally past life memories are the basis for some of the fears of childhood. The child who is afraid of water may have memories of having drowned in another lifetime. The child who is afraid of the dark or can't bear to be in a confined area may have, at least, the emotional memories of the POW who was kept in the dark or confined in a small cage. Children usually forget past life memories rather quickly as they approach school age.<br /><br />Some individuals have gained a certain amount of access to their subconscious through the practice of meditation. <strong>Probably the most familiar method of gaining access to the subconscious is through conventional hypnosis under the guidance of a trained Hypnotherapist</strong>".</span></p></blockquote><br /><br /><br />Now, with a good definition you can imagine how the knowledge of a past life can affect your present life. If you are new to the concept of Past Lives (PL’s), I am going to confine this article to the basics of the concept. In future articles and workshops, I plan on developing a more detailed explanation of how PL’s can be a very useful therapy.<br /><br />To be open to and explore the subject of PL’s, we need to make an assumption. You do not have to believe in PL’s, but you should be at least open to the possibility of reincarnation. Reincarnation is the bedrock for the belief in Past Life Regressions (PLR’s), so for the sake of argument, let’s assume that reincarnation is real. Your soul is immortal and uses the physical world as a school to learn, grow, evolve and assist others in their growth. <br /><br />During a PLR, I will hypnotize you to visualize yourself going back in time, first, to a happy childhood memory.<br />Then, through the use of regressions we will go back to an earlier time in your life and finally I will have you sense yourself in your mother’s womb.<br />Next, with the permission of your higher self, we will go back to a place and earlier time that your soul was in another body.<br />There you experience various significant events in that life, which are affecting your life, now. You will experience your death in that life, which may sound scary, but is really enlightening because it proves to you, that death, is not as permanent as you may have first thought.<br />After your “death” in that life, your soul goes into “the light”, where you visit with the souls of family that has passed.<br /><br />Past Life Regression Therapy (PLRT) is the therapeutic use of a past life regression to determine what experiences your soul had in that past life, which is now affecting your current life.<br />You gain insight as to why certain unexplained thoughts, fears, angers, etc. had bothered you, which suddenly, now make sense.<br />The therapeutic use of PLR was perfected by Dr. Brian Weiss (www.brianweiss.com) among others; PLRT has helped thousands of people with issues in their current life that could not be helped by more traditional therapeutic techniques.<br /><br />I had the pleasure and honor to be taught by Dr. Brian Weiss in a week long Past Life Regression Workshop and Advanced PLR workshops that included “Future Life Progression”<br />(I will be writing and having workshops on that in the future).<br />At this PLR Workshop there were 150 therapists, doctors, hypnotherapists, teachers from all over the world to learn the PLRT techniques as taught by Dr. Weiss.<br />As you can imagine there were many, many questions posed to Brian and he answered them all in the loving nurturing way that is so his manner.<br /><br />I will list some of the more popular questions and give the answers Brian gave.<br /><br /><em>Do I have to be “Very Deep” in hypnosis to have a PLR</em>?<br />Not really. If you understand that issues from past lives can affect your current life, then those memories must be very close to the surface, readily accessible, even in a light trance.<br /><br /><em>How do I know it is a “real” past life experience and not my imagination</em>?<br />This is a very good question. Therapeutically speaking, if the person has a better life; better able to function in society, with less stress and a better understanding of who he is and the purpose of his life… If he is better able to cope, in general, from the information he receives from a past life…Does it matter if it real or imagination? Of course it didn’t matter…And as Dr. Weiss said… But it IS real!”<br /><br /><em>How do you know PLRT is real</em>?<br />I know from experience. As always, I will state that my belief in PLR, along with everything else on my website is my opinion. However, if you want to discuss the subject of real vs. imagination, contact me or enter a question unto this blog.<br /><br /><em>Can “Bad things” happen from a PLR, like in the movie “Stir of Echo’s</em>”?<br />PLR is safe and enlightening. The only contraindications for any PLR or regression therapy are in the case of serious mental or emotional conditions. A person should NOT participate in PLR, regression work or hypnosis if they have been diagnosed by a medical practitioner as clinically depressed, bi-polar, manic/depression, etc. <br /><br />For more information look at my website <a href="http://www.hyp4life.com/">www.HYP4LIFE.com</a><br />More interesting sites<br /><br />Carol Bowman's website;<br /><a href="http://www.childpastlives.org/">http://www.childpastlives.org/</a><br /><br />Webliography.<br />http://www.llewellynencyclopedia.com/article/169<br />www.brianweiss.comGarry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386790280678213633.post-68564341036159623632009-02-12T21:56:00.009-05:002009-12-05T22:32:17.028-05:00Group Hypnosis and Telephone Psychics... Buyers BewareSynopsis;<br /><br />This article is about the concerns everyone should have when deciding to participate in a group hypnosis workshop or seeking a psychic. There are links to online reports of misrepresentations by unscrupulous hypnosis and psychic practitioners. How everyone should keep a healthy skepticism and the best method of finding a hypnosis or metaphysical practitioner that is right for you.<br /><br />All hypnosis is good for you.<br />A very strong statement, but one I stand behind.<br />No hypnotist, no matter how gifted, experienced or deceitful can make you do something that goes against your better judgment.<br />Even if you saw your best friend, making a fool of him or herself during a hypnosis stage show, you should know that they would be that goofy in the right situation and the hypnosis just let them let their hair down a little quicker.<br />Stage hypnosis is a double edged sword.<br />On one hand it demonstrates how powerful hypnosis is and at the same time it frightens away many people from taking advantage of a very beneficial therapeutic technique.<br />During a hypnosis session (group or individual) you will feel relaxed and your body will totally de-stress, your blood pressure will be reduced, time will fade away with your stress.<br />Sounds good, huh?<br />That’s ‘cause it is good.<br /><br />Speaking in general, group hypnosis during a seminar or workshop can help people quit smoking or lose weight but, can never be as effective as a private session.<br />The reasons are many and obvious.<br />During group hypnosis, the hypnotist must adjust his technique for the average participant. Some will be deeper than others and so their hypnotic experience will be better,<br />while other participants will never experience hypnosis at all.<br /><br />There are however, many benefits to attending a hypnosis workshop.<br />They are an inexpensive way to experience hypnosis<br />and understand what it feels like to be in hypnosis.<br /><br />If you are in the 10 percent of the population that are extremely good hypnotic subjects,<br />you may walk out of the workshop and be perfectly happy and satisfied with the results.<br />Perhaps you will never smoke again or begin to control eating urges and<br />in general, most group hypnosis workshops are happy with a 10 % success rate.<br />I am not.<br />That is why my group hypnosis workshops are 4-5 hours long.<br />The reason why my group sessions are so long is because,<br />I want all participants to have the best shot at a great experience.<br />The workshops that I am doing now are,<br />"Smoking Cessation",<br />“Introduction to Hypnosis”,<br />“Past Life Regression”,<br />“Stress Management” and<br />“Hypnosis and Meditation”<br />In each group workshop, I will conduct at least three hypnosis experiences,<br />each one progressively more deeper than the previous one.<br />The reason is I want you to have a thouough experience<br />and not question if you were hypnotized.<br />The more often you experience hypnosis,<br />the deeper you go and your questioning if, in fact, you were hypnotized<br />becomes a moot point.<br />I want to feel comfortable that when you leave my workshop,<br />you will be satisfied, although I still admit,<br />group hypnosis can never be as effective as a private session.<br /><br />There is a big difference between cynics and skeptics (I used to be a cynic)<br />no matter what proof you had,<br />if I didn’t believe in what you were “selling”,<br />I wasn't buying.<br />Period.<br /><br />It didn’t matter if the proof was beyond doubt,<br />I was a non-believer and nothing would or could change my mind.<br />If that sounds like you, and nothing will change your mind,<br />you are not allowing a lot of joy and amazement into your life.<br />Consider challenging your disbelief,<br />you may be pleasantly surprised at the results of letting your<br />disbeliening guard down a little.<br /><br />I am now a skeptic. I now will accept that anything as possible,<br />but I hold off, true belief until I am completely convinced.<br />Those things in life that I do not believe in,<br />I still allow myself the option of changing my mind,<br />should stronger proof come along.<br />I think I am a healthier person now than before.<br />I consider myself a “healthy” skeptic.<br /><br />As in all professions, there are practitioners who are honest,<br />professional and totally reputable, but unfortunately,<br />there are those that are not<br />and give their profession a bad name.<br />With hypnosis (other than the types of group hypnosis seminars cited below)<br />there are hypnotists that are better than others,<br />but an extremely small percentage are fraudulent.<br /><br />Unfortunately the same cannot be said for the field of Psychic/Mediumship.<br />The few fraudulent psychics have terribly besmirched<br />the reputation of practioners of this age old art and ability.<br />But in this case you MUST keep your healthy skepticism on high,<br />because in this field,<br />where people are so open and vulnerable,<br />the possibility of being a victim is higher than when looking for a hypnotherapist.<br />I suggest reading my blog article titled, “Metaphysicality”.<br /><br />Here are a few articles from the internet about some, less than honest hypnosis smoking cessation and weight management programs and call in psychics.<br />You should always remember to thoroughly investigate any group hypnosis program, hypnocounselor/hypnotherapist or psychic.<br />Advertising in newspapers, radio and TV is fine,<br />but remember that word of mouth and referrals<br />are always the best way to find a reputable practitioner.<br />Ask for referrals and always, always keep your healthy skepticism!<br /><br />*********************************************************************************<br /><br />New Jersey Company That Markets Hypnosis Seminars for Smoking Cessation and Weight Loss Agrees to Settle FTC Charges<br /><a href="http://www.casewatch.org/ftc/news/1994/gorayeb.shtml">http://www.casewatch.org/ftc/news/1994/gorayeb.shtml</a><br /><br /><br />Florida Company That Markets Hypnosis Seminars for Smoking Cessation and Weight Loss Agrees to Settle FTC Charges<br /><a href="http://www.casewatch.org/ftc/news/1994/aihc.shtml">http://www.casewatch.org/ftc/news/1994/aihc.shtml</a><br /><br /><br />BBB of Texas report on fraud in hypnosis seminar<br /><a href="http://us.bbb.org/WWWRoot/SitePage.aspx?site=113&id=1869d6a9-82aa-49a1-8419-40a8251fa916&art=2934">http://us.bbb.org/WWWRoot/SitePage.aspx?site=113&id=1869d6a9-82aa-49a1-8419-40a8251fa916&art=2934</a><br /><br /><br />IHI Settles FTC Charges over Stop-Smoking, Weight-Loss Claims<br /><a href="http://www.casewatch.org/ftc/news/1994/ihi-clinics.shtml">http://www.casewatch.org/ftc/news/1994/ihi-clinics.shtml</a><br /><br /><br />Lawsuits mount over “Miss Cleo”<br /><a href="http://www.slate.com/id/2063700/">http://www.slate.com/id/2063700/</a>Garry...http://www.blogger.com/profile/16597139038681329083noreply@blogger.com0